Adult emotions and emotions in children are substantially different. primarily by the fact that children's emotions are simple, spontaneous, not abstaining and immediately find the appropriate expression. With the upbringing of children coming up to the appropriate changes. Eventually lose their emotions and nediferenciranost child gradually begins to learn and to refrain from emotions and thus acquires its own way of expression.
Below, we should mention some of the difference between emotion and emotion adult children:
First Children's emotions are short-lived
Below, we should mention some of the difference between emotion and emotion adult children:
First Children's emotions are short-lived
They last only a few minutes and then suddenly disappears while the emotions of an adult man last longer and tend to forget. Taking corrective measures and the proper role of parents is replaced by the character of children's emocija.Te emotions are turned into long-term sentiment. For example, restrained anger turns into durljivost, joy in a good mood, and recoil in fear at every sound or change. These emotions usually occurs in preschool children, or for about four years of life in the presence of an authority, either the parents or child carers. Even in the company of their peers with children's emotions can be differentiated.
Second Children's emotions are strong
The emotions of an adult man can not reach beyond the intensity as the child, because children's emotions do not have a grade no matter the situation. This especially applies to anger, fear and joy. In children, these emotions are expressed with full intensity. Place a child in anger, screaming, thrashes it, hitting the arms and legs and even bite. The fear is izbezumljuje, hiding and screaming. These reactions certainly inadequate as adults is often but not always a negative impact on the child. Fines and warnings for their behavior have such an impact that child eventually learns to be reservedly when expressing their emotions. also in socializing with their peers a child learns to control his emotions. In this way the child learns to refrain from expressing their tumultuous feelings.
Third Child's emotions are unstable
The child, unlike adults easily passes from positive to negative emotion and vice versa. What the state of great joy suddenly cross the unmotivated plot. Love, jealousy, anger and laughter, and so on. alternate. But that does not mean that children's emotions are shallow and superficial, rather than the child violently expressed and then they do not accumulate. A child that age has not yet intellectually mature enough to understand certain situacuja, and the attention he does not stay long in one case, which causes the transition from one emotional extreme to another. But while the emotion is present as it is more intense than in adults.
4th Together with age emotions are increasingly differentiated
Under the influence of environmental and educational measures children slowly control their emotional reactions. Emotional reactions of each child depends on his experiences and experiences. This means that each child has a fear of something, or any of the dark mass, and the like. In the same emotional situation of each child reacts in a different way, some children are hidden, the second plot, and a mother looking back, etc..
5th The child expresses his feelings
Children are unable to abstain, or to neispoljavaju their emotions. Although they learn that the older children still respond to a tide, for example. nervousness, anxiety, arm and leg movements, gestures and so on. From this we can conclude that children are simply not able to hide what I feel.
In psychology, there is no general prihvacemog of emotions, ie. No list of emotions in children and adults. As for pre-school age, at that time were developed almost all kinds of emotions. Preschool children have developed a feeling of personal honor, and therefore react negatively to the humiliation (eg, when force him into a corner because it was not sound, you send him to another room, forbid him to leave the yard, etc..). In these cases the child reacts cry, and sometimes jogunstvom.
In the period of pre-school child is also very sensitive to praise and condemnation. At the rebuke usually respond with tears, and praise when it is happy and proud. At the end of pre-school period, there is shyness. It usually comes into play when something has to sing or say the unknown licima.U early childhood, ie. a period of 2 to 6 years, the emotions that come up most often expressed as anger, fear, love and jealousy, then joy, a rare unfortunately.
First Anger
This emotion and its causes is a lot of psychologists studied at various ages. The results show that the child reacts with emotion when they suppress in an activity. But that would be caused by this emocijanije not enough to prevent a physical, but it should be applied in a manner that the child feels frustrated.
Preschool child expresses anger, often in the following situations: getting used to the toilet, dressing, eating pattern, going to bed (especially after lunch), washing hair and cesljannjem. Quite often the cause of the anger and the other children, who want their favorite toys. The frequency of occurrence of the wrath of its length and duration, were also the subject of study.
It is proved that the pre-school children's anger does not last longer than 5 minutes and after that everything was fine again. The child passes anger more so if it realizes that nothing will be achieved. Florence Gudinav studies the frequency of anger at different ages. At the age of 3 - 7 years, notes that the more frequent occurrence of anger in boys than in girls, which confirms the statement that the parent is harder to raise boys than girls.
The frequency of anger also depends on the physical condition of children, ie. whether you have a cold, are hungry and the like. It is found that the anger expressed more often in sick children than those completely healthy.
Second Anger
Anger is an emotion that is expressed immediately after the anger. Preschool child when angry, they may scream, place, Rita, hitting, scratching, throwing on the floor, and in some cases, swearing and quarrels are.When you are angry, children are sometimes aggressive towards people and things that cause.
In early childhood anger is quite a common reaction, as this draws attention to the child himself. In children aged 3 to 5 years of anger attacks usually cause the teasing from other children, then when another child takes a desired item, or ridicule, and the like. The child needs to learn how to control his anger, and this is best learned from adults, especially parents and educators.
Third Fear
Fear is one of the most common emotions that occur in childhood, pre-school age children. Along with age and maturing changing objects and situations that cause fear. At first the child is afraid of unknown people, the sudden appearance, and then animals and darkness. Fear can be transferred from other, like siblings, parents or adults. Then fear of unpleasant events, eg. lightning, shot, fire.
Fear can cause and intimidation. It is usually used by parents to the child pointed to the danger of electric currents, deep water, an unknown dog traffic. This method may be useful in education, but need to know when and how to apply, otherwise it can become harmful.
As already noted in pre-school age children fear is common, but already under 7 years of fear gradually cease.During this period, developing reasoning power, understanding, prediction and opinion. Although some psychologists argue that srah of snakes, big dogs, and darkness remains.
In her dark fat child meets various dangers and fears. The child in the age pretskolskoj less afraid of unknown objects, people, noise and sudden events. Therefore, the fear of pre-school age increases, as occurs through children's imagination. The child is still afraid of loneliness, even death.
The phenomena that accompany the appearance of fear the tremors, changes in voice and movement. The consequences of fear they may also be shy and strasljivost. Children need help to overcome fear, and it is the best way to know what fears and to master the situation in which it is located.
4th Sadness (unfortunately)
The child was sad and sad when he is down or broken toy. It is sad when you shout, punish, if you feel that there is a loved one, or when that person happens to an accident. Unfortunately it is usually suppressed, because society does not correspond to such a mood.
Sad child feels the need to entrust someone or izjada. For this reason the child is necessary to have someone you trust. In pre-school period are mostly toys, but they can not ignore the mother, father, brothers and sisters, and child carers.
Unfortunately the child was feeling the least because it is often angry. Most often zalosna shy children, while children are restless and angry self-conscious. Sad child has no interest, he does not care to nothing, place, rest.But what is important is that the emotion is short.
5th Joy and laughter
Preschool child is often joyful and joy usually lasts from one to ten minutes. Laughter occurs between 3 and 16 months. Children laugh when they are happy and satisfied. More laughs with others in the company than when alone. Good kids love to play more with their children who are similar but with a quiet and withdrawn children.What causes these pleasant emotions: surprise, gifts, wish fulfillment, games, etc..
The child is usually happy when you praise or praise when something is drawn or made. Children also in this period, like humor, sale and funny stories, especially girls. Although it does not apply equally to all children.
Love
In pre-school child would love deepens and becomes permanent, because the child is now beginning to realize the value of their parents. The child was in this period in their feelings of less self-centered than before. Also in this period, developed and great companionship, ie. adherence to the other, or friend.
At that time it breaks the connection between large family, which is very important for the future child's emotional development. Sibling love it occurs to people that make you happy and satisfied. Sibling love is primarily related to the mother, because she spends most of his time with the child. Although this does not necessarily mean, for example. If a mother ignores him and posvacuje his attention, his love child transferred to another person who is more concerned about him.
Blood ties play no role in these emotions. Also, children love changes with age, for example. the difference between love for his mother and the love of his father. Emotion of love for their parents follow the child comfort. But what most affects the children in this period, and the other age groups when it feels "torn" between the father and mother. It occurs when parents quarrel in front of children or are divorced.
For the child is the most important need to have both parents and loves them both. Parents also often not aware of the consequences that occur when children encourage self-regarding love. For example. "Dad just loves you, not like Mom and cut." "You love only your mom and dad do not love 'and the like.
Often the question "Who do you prefer, your mum and dad?" . In such situations the child will feel insecure and then persuading the parents began to cultivate more love for a parent. Also, if the child feels different attitudes of parents, he uses it wisely and adhere to the parent whose behavior it is more convenient and that is more lenient with him.
The child's love is not necessarily geared towards parents and friends, but can be directed to the things and animals. Let's love of toys or animals may be stronger than the man. Therefore, the relevant expressions of love.Whether in the form of verbal expression, caressing, cuddling and so on. as a child in need.
It is more than food, but also of maternal love. Child to feel when sitting in his mother's lap. For him it is the safest and most comfortable place, because it feels that someone is protecting him. If the child does not live to an expression of love that becomes emotionally cold person who does not make contact with other people. Your child expresses love for someone hugging and kissing, and often imitating that person.
In this case obocno girls imitating her mother, secretly dress of her dress and shoes, put her jewelry, and boys to identify with the fathers. The majority of children are model parents that she saw. So the very important mutual relations and their parents' attitude towards children.
The identification process should be encouraged, encouragement and convincing the child's environment.Failures are not uncommon and wrong procedures when bringing up, so it often happens that a boy raised as a girl, and girls as boys.
Jealousy
Jealousy is an emotion very common in pre-school age children. It is a special kind of anger. Origin and cause of jealousy to report the social character. Jealousy is usually caused by parents, brothers or sisters, and pre-school period and his friends.
The first signs of jealousy appeared 18 months, although jealousy is often manifested between 2 and 5 years.Like other emotional reactions to jealousy and changes with age. Reaches its peak between 3 and 4 years. Very often the cause of jealousy and the addition to the family. Therefore, its' important attitude of parents to prevent jealousy. It is proved that jealousy is more common in families with fewer children than in larger families. Then, when one of the children in the family suffers long, and he rodiutelji devote more attention.
If parents, relatives or friends publicly compares the success of children in school, intelligence, diligence to also create jealousy. Adults often unconsciously, in the hall say "see how he was a better boy than you, '" as he knows everything and you nothing, "and the like. These are the reasons that encourage children to jealousy.
Jealousy can occur, and the father, because children often appropriate the mother. Therefore it does not allow to express affection for his father. Lubomora manifests itself in various ways, and kids respond to it in two ways either openly or covertly. Open respond to physical or verbal attacks, and often represent a "problem" in their midst. Those who are jealous of, ignored, and sometimes beat him, gossip, podsmijavaju and the vitriolic.
When a child reacts to jealousy, so it behaves strange and undesirable way, it is then called a concealed jealousy.Going to be jealous of a child begins to wet the bed, although I long to overcome that finger sucking, stuttering, that is afraid to eat or not. Sometimes exhibit symptoms of some diseases.
It is known that emotions do not occur randomly, but rather something stimulates or triggers. To be able to control the children's emotions, it is necessary to know the factors that cause or prevent them. In certain emotions affect:
First Fatigue
When the child is tired, it's easy quarrelsome and weepy. It does not matter whether the child is tired due to lack of sleep, excessive play, great excitement and the like. If the child is younger then him on his mood and fatigue has a greater impact.
Second Poor health
The disease affects the children negatively on mood, as well as adults. If the child is prone kvarni teeth, eyes, if there are problems with tonsils or diet, all the same effect on children's emotions and incites irritability.
Third Events
In a time of day the child shows stronger emotional responses than usual. With small children it is usually at bedtime or meals. If the sequence of feeding and sleep disrupted, leading to excessive expression of emotion.
4th The attitude of parents
The most important and often decisive factor in the development of emotions. Negative emotions arise when the child is too much neglected, or it receives too much attention. Neglected children are usually shy, suspicious, malicious, while other children who had been granted excessive protection and parents, in other words "spoiled children", are prone to nervousness and I can not refrain in their expression of emotion.
5th Social environment
This is also one of the most important factors affecting emotionality djetea. The environment in which the child grows, he transferred to his influences. Emotions social environment is quite steady. Depending on the family and family is different permissiveness toward children.
The ease or difficulty in meeting their desires is important for the child's emotions. Staying with someone who is irritable nature affects the child's irritability, and if I spend close to calm the person the child will learn not to be inclined razdrazivanju.
Family and emotions
As already mentioned, one of the important factors for the emotional development of children as parents. For the healthy development of children's emotional health is important sensed the atmosphere in the family, a beautiful relationship between the family members, and especially to love and respect between parents and understanding the development of the child.
Parents often know that their excessive concern disable children's development of autonomy, initiative, because parents tend to do everything for their children, and what she could herself. For children's emotional development requires a balanced parental love. When this relationship is developing a hearty and warm family atmosphere.
The family is not only children develop emotionally, but also parents, so often when it comes to difficulty.Parents must be primarily used to the responsibility for their children. When they take that attitude, the children begin to become independent. Here the problems start.
When a parent wants to do something for the child, and it still wants to do this alone, parents often comment on it, as insolent and ungrateful children, parents and the children then they bore. The child also needs to feel protected. To her feel in need of parental control. It is known to control the child conceived as a protection, if you are reasonably satisfied and understood his basic needs.
If the child is not emotionally developed properly, the child may appear problematic behavior. But everyone should know that such behavior is not particularly serious, but if it is not frequent. If this behavior is often then it usually is associated with tension.
The tension is expressed in the nail biting, stuttering, jogunstvo, defiance, etc.. Such behavior is not treated noise and assault on a child, for the more parents excite, upset and vented his rage against the strict discipline of a child, the greater the possibility that the behavior to keep.
Firstly to determine whether the cause of the behavior of learning new skills, new preuranjenost with the flexibility that the child is or are still a cause of internal tension. Parents should bear in mind that every child is learning about the effort and that all children do not learn easily. Some need more time, and some less.Therefore, education must seek to emotionally as much as possible favorable influence on the Expand child.
Positive feelings are especially important for children's razvoj.Roditelji need to be patient with children. His lack of understanding not to make violence against the development of the child and his difficulties in learning. Thus they will kill the child and achieve a counter-effect.
The child should not identify themselves as adults, but should not constantly comparing it to a toy. emotional development is important to enrich and jazaju feelings when a child experiences in practice. New activities for children change their emotional relationships and their personality.
To emotional development as successful as possible, it is necessary to form a family and maintain a positive emotional atmosphere.
Each child in its own way expresses jealousy and all that his reactions are unconscious. Therefore, parents should be careful in these situations and to take care not to provoke jealousy in children. For example. percent know that a second child on the way, it should be a nice way to communicate to the first child and to develop in him a desire to get a brother or sister.
In the first encounter with the brother or sister, a child must feel the joy she felt they had received something close and important, and at the same time retained unchanged love of their parents. Thus, the main task of parents and teachers to avoid situations that lead to the manifestation of these emotions.
What is interesting about this emotion is that it varies by sex. It is scientifically proven that women are more likely than men jealous. Jealousy although essentially negative emotions, it has a positive side. Often can serve as a stimulus to greater activity, the greater successes of the effort to overcome his brother, sister or other of whom is jealous.
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