Sunday, April 6, 2014

What you should not promise to your children?

Never forget that children are very smart and great to remember all that they promise. How many times have you surprised when  your little kid reminds you of something that you have promised him a long time ago? 

Never make promises, if you are not able to fulfill. Otherwise, your child will experience great disappointment and it will slowly lose trust in their parents.



Below are some tips related to the fact that children do not need these kind of promises.

Professor of dealing with upbringing and education of children and the author of books for children, Sylvia Rus emphasizes the fact that children are "big sticklers" when it comes to promises.
The spoken word becomes your responsibility.
Every time you say a lie you lose part of your child's confidence.

One of the bad sentence: "I promise it will not hurt"

Pain is a subjective feeling. Even the little things that you are innocent, they can really hurt your child. When you remove the patch, clean the wound and the like, it is much better to say: "It may hurt a little, but it will soon pass."

For all too busy moms and dads, very bad sentence for your children is: "I promise I'll be home before you go to bed."
Children are intelligent creatures and they will understand if you tell them: "I will do my best to get home as soon as possible."
One should always be careful when it comes to circumstances beyond your control, such as emergency appointments, traffic jams, an inevitable lectures. 

Do not make promises  for children to play with a buddy, if you are not able to fulfill the promise.

Never buy and bribe their own child. A sentence like "I promise I'll take you for ice cream when you clean your room," I will not build the character of your child. Much better sound statement: "You need to clean up your toys, because someone could trip over and fall".


Help your child to learn to appreciate the value of books and learning, rather than at any price he wants to be the best. Never be satisfied with the fact that a child learns, because he wants to meet you. You need to create a successful man from a small child. Say: "Writing Domestic will help you to grow, learn and become a better person."

When your child is sad, do not promise it will be better tomorrow. Say: "It sounds like you had a tough day."


Your child wants something special and you want to give him, but more trips require more planning and investment. Together with your child, make a piggy bank and remove the money for your common dream.

Never forget that children are intelligent beings, have excellent judgment and a very strong emotion.