Saturday, January 12, 2013

Signs that you destroy social life of your child

Parents can have an incredibly positive impact on the social life of children, but it can also destroy it. So make sure parents! Here are a few things you should consider. 


Psychologist and former teacher Michele Borba, author of The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries, devotes ten worst ways you can destroy the social life of your child.

First Not a good role model. Tells children that they must behave, and then verbally attack the waiter because you did not bring all that you ordered? Are you saying that children do not speak to others behind their backs, and then they throw the juicy gossip party over the phone? Do not expect children to be good friends, if you are not alone.

Second Attack you. Insist that your shy son has a great birthday party, even though he called for only the closest friends? Child not interested in friendship that only you care about.

3rd Military school. Organize every minute of your child's time while with friends? Worried follow his association? Relax and let the child only lived for a friendly experience.

4th Sterilize operating rooms like home. Friends insist that your children take off their shoes and never touch? Do not be so burdened purity because so children will not be able to relax.

5th You're acting like a dinosaur. The child in front of friends shame because I do not understand their ways of communicating and new tricks? Forcing a child to dress like thirty years ago? Do not reject the changes in terms of patterns of behavior that are important to your child and friends.


6th As the head with a hammer. Constantly criticizing the way your teenager make friends? Eavesdrop on conversations and telling him what he should say? Do not be critical as this will discourage the adoption of a child social skills.

7th Arations nose clouds. Friends of your child does not meet your criteria? Treat with contempt, ignore them or never have time to find out more about them and know them better? Do not throw away your children's friends before you take into account the values ​​of these rates your children.

8th You want to make your child's best friend. More important is that you have a crush on their own child than to set limits? You want your child to be so popular that from home so the main place for gathering?Remember that you are a parent and you need to set some rules of conduct.

9th As on a desert island. No one helped you when you had problems with their friends, so why bother? Do not kid yourself that there is someone who can give your child more support in their efforts to teach social skills, or that it can be accomplished without you.

10th Little house of horrors. Does this apply to everyone in the family with respect? Does your child to bring friends home? Are they proud of you and see you as a role model? Do not expect your child to bring friends home if your house is not happy and comfortable place to stay.


And how's it going? Remember - using simple parental decisions can really change the life of your child, especially if you choose one that has a weight in the upbringing of the child and make sure they become involved in the daily life. 

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