Many undesirable words are in the dictionary almost every child goes through a developmental phase
Do not worry, your child is not the only one that everyone says "I will" and that's not a reflection of his poor upbringing. Phase refusal, denial, and has several undesirable words.
The first occurs between 1.5 and 2 year old child. Owing to the fact that your child is not quite proficient in the verbal expression of this age has no undesirable to say, there are many non-verbal forms of negativism.Surely you know what it looks like. He looks you right in the eye, understands everything you say to him, absorbs your movements or facial grimace - but no matter what you do or say that will not eat, sleep or even to bathe. They refuse to even actions that normally ahead of him. Refuses to play, go for a walk with his grandmother. More precisely, all that the proposals are rejected.
Soon you will yourself realize that if you do not nominate an activity they have a much better chance of being carried out. Some children's psychoanalysts argue that when a child "come" to 21 month of life, its not (will not, can not, will not give) a very short-term effect. The child will talk no matter what not, but after a few minutes to act in the sense that. Parents rarely remember these points, because at the time of the child's negatives are so angry that they want to jump out of his own skin. However, check! In addition to patience in this situation you much else is left. Experience shows that boys in this age group more often deny the commandments mother, aunt, teacher in kindergarten, her grandmother - does not fit all the women from his inner circle (as in closer contact to this is not more powerful). Girls proveravju limit of patience on their fathers and other male characters from their environment.
The worst that under such circumstances can make is to "hereditary" provocation: you start yelling or explain. The worst way in this situation is to start devising various igrara to entice a child to do this or what you ordered him. Let's do it again, and will do so in the future. You're probably wondering why it is wrong to act like this? Because of this child and you just expect. Draws you into his game and got a new party. While you convince him that he needs to sleep and play with the little show with other members of your family andjelce will be great fun, gain time (ie. Postponed'm going to sleep) and quickly get the impression that it is a true master of the situation and not you. So rather act like everything is okay. Ignore rejection. Show that you hear, nod their heads as a sign that you understand all the work, but as the child consented.
While some activities are flexible, when the rhythm of sleeping and eating at the time, or the drug - that the child can not be a bargaining and negotiation. Child from day one has to be clear.
Between the second and third year of the child says no (I will not give ...) is not enough to ensure compliance with your reaction or test the limits of endurance (after all, what it is by now well acquainted, and knows exactly what he can to "turn on" and what not), but because of a prank. Parents who have managed to more or less painlessly overcome the first stage of their child's negativism now have a much better chance and less work in the conduct of battle with every stage of denial.
Do not worry, your child is not the only one that everyone says "I will" and that's not a reflection of his poor upbringing. Phase refusal, denial, and has several undesirable words.
The first occurs between 1.5 and 2 year old child. Owing to the fact that your child is not quite proficient in the verbal expression of this age has no undesirable to say, there are many non-verbal forms of negativism.Surely you know what it looks like. He looks you right in the eye, understands everything you say to him, absorbs your movements or facial grimace - but no matter what you do or say that will not eat, sleep or even to bathe. They refuse to even actions that normally ahead of him. Refuses to play, go for a walk with his grandmother. More precisely, all that the proposals are rejected.
Soon you will yourself realize that if you do not nominate an activity they have a much better chance of being carried out. Some children's psychoanalysts argue that when a child "come" to 21 month of life, its not (will not, can not, will not give) a very short-term effect. The child will talk no matter what not, but after a few minutes to act in the sense that. Parents rarely remember these points, because at the time of the child's negatives are so angry that they want to jump out of his own skin. However, check! In addition to patience in this situation you much else is left. Experience shows that boys in this age group more often deny the commandments mother, aunt, teacher in kindergarten, her grandmother - does not fit all the women from his inner circle (as in closer contact to this is not more powerful). Girls proveravju limit of patience on their fathers and other male characters from their environment.
The worst that under such circumstances can make is to "hereditary" provocation: you start yelling or explain. The worst way in this situation is to start devising various igrara to entice a child to do this or what you ordered him. Let's do it again, and will do so in the future. You're probably wondering why it is wrong to act like this? Because of this child and you just expect. Draws you into his game and got a new party. While you convince him that he needs to sleep and play with the little show with other members of your family andjelce will be great fun, gain time (ie. Postponed'm going to sleep) and quickly get the impression that it is a true master of the situation and not you. So rather act like everything is okay. Ignore rejection. Show that you hear, nod their heads as a sign that you understand all the work, but as the child consented.
While some activities are flexible, when the rhythm of sleeping and eating at the time, or the drug - that the child can not be a bargaining and negotiation. Child from day one has to be clear.
Between the second and third year of the child says no (I will not give ...) is not enough to ensure compliance with your reaction or test the limits of endurance (after all, what it is by now well acquainted, and knows exactly what he can to "turn on" and what not), but because of a prank. Parents who have managed to more or less painlessly overcome the first stage of their child's negativism now have a much better chance and less work in the conduct of battle with every stage of denial.
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