You do not have to choose between his love life and his children
As a "single" parent, this topic is very important to me, and I believe it is similar to a lot of people in my situation. Single parenting is not easy and all of you who have found themselves in that situation, you were the mother or father, you should get the recognition you deserve what you wear with a given situation as best you can, you can.
What about when it gets involved in meeting new people? This is not an easy task even for free people without children, let alone when your kid or more embroiled in it. Only then can you have a complex situation.
So what to do? If you ask me, what we should not stop looking for a new partner. Far be it from me to think that you yourself are not able to care for their children, but for two is definitely easier. And in a situation with only one parent, children can not see how it should look good, high quality links. How can we expect these children become adults with quality links you have no example in which they can learn while growing up?
I heard somewhere that if you tell your child to clean his room, but he does not show exactly how it works and what you should do, it will be cleaned "as they know best" and what will make them for you "clean room" means which in most cases will not meet your expectations. It's the same with relationships. If you do not see a functioning, successful relationship, and most people in your family or circle of friends also do not have - you can not know what it really is. You will not have any basis / bases on which you can build such a link, you do not even know what it really is.
Likewise, no matter how loved their children, and I know that this is more than you can describe, it is important to find another kind of love for him. Someone who will make you happy, someone with whom you can be intimate with whom you will be able to step through life together. No matter how far it was difficult - remember that children leave home. For some twenty years ago (more or less) your child will go on his own independent life. In those moments, it's nice to have a partner you can continue to rely on and with whom you can share your home.
Do you deny the chance to be happy and do not deny their children the opportunity to see you happy, but also to a healthy, functional relationship should look like. Have the courage and re-open your heart to someone. I know it's a lot easier coming up with excuses such as: "With work and kids, I do not have time to get to know someone," "do not feel like going through that initial meeting, the first coffee ..." and the like.Be bold and go to someone who you like, try to meet someone over the internet or allow friends to introduce you to someone. You deserve to be happy again and in love!
As a "single" parent, this topic is very important to me, and I believe it is similar to a lot of people in my situation. Single parenting is not easy and all of you who have found themselves in that situation, you were the mother or father, you should get the recognition you deserve what you wear with a given situation as best you can, you can.
What about when it gets involved in meeting new people? This is not an easy task even for free people without children, let alone when your kid or more embroiled in it. Only then can you have a complex situation.
So what to do? If you ask me, what we should not stop looking for a new partner. Far be it from me to think that you yourself are not able to care for their children, but for two is definitely easier. And in a situation with only one parent, children can not see how it should look good, high quality links. How can we expect these children become adults with quality links you have no example in which they can learn while growing up?
I heard somewhere that if you tell your child to clean his room, but he does not show exactly how it works and what you should do, it will be cleaned "as they know best" and what will make them for you "clean room" means which in most cases will not meet your expectations. It's the same with relationships. If you do not see a functioning, successful relationship, and most people in your family or circle of friends also do not have - you can not know what it really is. You will not have any basis / bases on which you can build such a link, you do not even know what it really is.
Likewise, no matter how loved their children, and I know that this is more than you can describe, it is important to find another kind of love for him. Someone who will make you happy, someone with whom you can be intimate with whom you will be able to step through life together. No matter how far it was difficult - remember that children leave home. For some twenty years ago (more or less) your child will go on his own independent life. In those moments, it's nice to have a partner you can continue to rely on and with whom you can share your home.
Do you deny the chance to be happy and do not deny their children the opportunity to see you happy, but also to a healthy, functional relationship should look like. Have the courage and re-open your heart to someone. I know it's a lot easier coming up with excuses such as: "With work and kids, I do not have time to get to know someone," "do not feel like going through that initial meeting, the first coffee ..." and the like.Be bold and go to someone who you like, try to meet someone over the internet or allow friends to introduce you to someone. You deserve to be happy again and in love!
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