A lot of parents want to talk to their children about sex and sexuality, but often do not know how to start. Here are some tips:
Explore your own attitudes
Studies have shown that children who feel they can talk freely with their parents about sex - because their parents speak openly and listen carefully to them - are less likely to get involved in high-risk behavior as teens than kids who are not free to talk to parents about the subject. Therefore, the first reexamine their feelings about sex. If you are very uncomfortable talking about the subject, read books and talk about it with a trusted friend, relative or doctor. The more I study the subject, it will be easier for you to talk about it.
Even if you can not overcome the discomfort, do not be afraid to admit children. Feel free to tell them: "You know, I'm embarrassed to talk about sex because my parents never talked to me about it. But I want to talk about anything, including the sex, so please ask me what you are looking for. And if you do not know the answer, I'll find out more about it. "
Early Start
Teaching children about sex demands a careful, continuous flow of information, which should begin as early as possible - for example, when you teach your child two years old where his nose, where fingers, tell him "it's your penis" or "that's Vagina. " As the child grows, you can continue with education gradually adding more information to understand the topic.
Take the initiative
If your child has not started asking questions about sex, look for the opportunity to bring it up to them. For example, your friend's mother was pregnant seven year olds. You can tell him: "Did you notice that David's mommy's tummy grew? That's because it's going to have a baby that is growing in her belly. Do you know how the baby got in there? "And carry on a conversation.
Do not talk only about the "storks" or "bees"
While our children need to know the biological facts about sex, you should realize that sexual relationships involve caring, responsibility and kindness. Talking about the emotional aspect of a sexual relationship with a child, the better it will inform and will make decisions later and resist peer pressure. If your child is a pre-teen, you have to talk to include a message about the responsibilities and the consequences of sexual activity. Talk with eleven or dvanaestgodišnjakom should include talks about unwanted pregnancy and how it can protect you.
One thing that many parents overlook when discussing sex with children was walking with someone. Unlike the movies, where two people meet and end up the same evening in bed together, in real life there is a period of dating - holding hands, going to the movies, walk in the park and talking. Children need to know that this is an essential part of the delicate relationship.
Give accurate information appropriate to the child's age
Talk about sex in a way that is suitable age and maturity of the child. If you're eight years old asks why boys and girls change so much as they grow, you can say: "The body has special substances, called hormones that tell it a boy or a girl. Boys have a penis and testicles, and how to grow their voice changes and becomes deeper, and they start to grow hair on his body. The girls have a vulva and vagina, and as they grow, they grow breasts and hips to get around them.
Prepare them for the next stage of development
The children are frightened and confused by the sudden change in the body that undergo during puberty.To prevent confusion and fear, talk to your children about their physical development, and the stage where it is currently located and what to expect. Eight year old girl is old enough to know what is menstruation, just as the boy of the same age, but old enough to know what physical changes await him.
Explain your views
It is our duty to explain our attitude to children about sex. Although it may not accept your views as they mature, they will at least be aware of them as they struggle with their feelings and how to handle a situation.
Talk with your child of the opposite sex
Some parents feel uncomfortable talking to their children about topics like sex, if a child of the opposite sex. This is understandable, but do not let it become an excuse for you not to talk with your child about these topics. If you're a single mother of a son, you can find books that will help you, or ask your doctor for advice on how to talk about sex with her son. You could also hire an uncle or other close male relatives to discuss the subject with your child, provided that one of them is already good and open communication. If a child lives with both parents, you might be more comfortable to talk with her daughter and the mom talking with her son's father. But of course it does not have to be the rule. If you love to talk about it with her daughter and son, please feel free to do so. Just make sure that differences in sex, do not make taboo.
Relax
Do not worry that you know all the answers to children's questions: what you know is much less important than how you respond. If you convey a message that there are no issues, including sex, which is forbidden in your home, you will rest easy.
Explore your own attitudes
Studies have shown that children who feel they can talk freely with their parents about sex - because their parents speak openly and listen carefully to them - are less likely to get involved in high-risk behavior as teens than kids who are not free to talk to parents about the subject. Therefore, the first reexamine their feelings about sex. If you are very uncomfortable talking about the subject, read books and talk about it with a trusted friend, relative or doctor. The more I study the subject, it will be easier for you to talk about it.
Even if you can not overcome the discomfort, do not be afraid to admit children. Feel free to tell them: "You know, I'm embarrassed to talk about sex because my parents never talked to me about it. But I want to talk about anything, including the sex, so please ask me what you are looking for. And if you do not know the answer, I'll find out more about it. "
Early Start
Teaching children about sex demands a careful, continuous flow of information, which should begin as early as possible - for example, when you teach your child two years old where his nose, where fingers, tell him "it's your penis" or "that's Vagina. " As the child grows, you can continue with education gradually adding more information to understand the topic.
Take the initiative
If your child has not started asking questions about sex, look for the opportunity to bring it up to them. For example, your friend's mother was pregnant seven year olds. You can tell him: "Did you notice that David's mommy's tummy grew? That's because it's going to have a baby that is growing in her belly. Do you know how the baby got in there? "And carry on a conversation.
Do not talk only about the "storks" or "bees"
While our children need to know the biological facts about sex, you should realize that sexual relationships involve caring, responsibility and kindness. Talking about the emotional aspect of a sexual relationship with a child, the better it will inform and will make decisions later and resist peer pressure. If your child is a pre-teen, you have to talk to include a message about the responsibilities and the consequences of sexual activity. Talk with eleven or dvanaestgodišnjakom should include talks about unwanted pregnancy and how it can protect you.
One thing that many parents overlook when discussing sex with children was walking with someone. Unlike the movies, where two people meet and end up the same evening in bed together, in real life there is a period of dating - holding hands, going to the movies, walk in the park and talking. Children need to know that this is an essential part of the delicate relationship.
Give accurate information appropriate to the child's age
Talk about sex in a way that is suitable age and maturity of the child. If you're eight years old asks why boys and girls change so much as they grow, you can say: "The body has special substances, called hormones that tell it a boy or a girl. Boys have a penis and testicles, and how to grow their voice changes and becomes deeper, and they start to grow hair on his body. The girls have a vulva and vagina, and as they grow, they grow breasts and hips to get around them.
Prepare them for the next stage of development
The children are frightened and confused by the sudden change in the body that undergo during puberty.To prevent confusion and fear, talk to your children about their physical development, and the stage where it is currently located and what to expect. Eight year old girl is old enough to know what is menstruation, just as the boy of the same age, but old enough to know what physical changes await him.
Explain your views
It is our duty to explain our attitude to children about sex. Although it may not accept your views as they mature, they will at least be aware of them as they struggle with their feelings and how to handle a situation.
Talk with your child of the opposite sex
Some parents feel uncomfortable talking to their children about topics like sex, if a child of the opposite sex. This is understandable, but do not let it become an excuse for you not to talk with your child about these topics. If you're a single mother of a son, you can find books that will help you, or ask your doctor for advice on how to talk about sex with her son. You could also hire an uncle or other close male relatives to discuss the subject with your child, provided that one of them is already good and open communication. If a child lives with both parents, you might be more comfortable to talk with her daughter and the mom talking with her son's father. But of course it does not have to be the rule. If you love to talk about it with her daughter and son, please feel free to do so. Just make sure that differences in sex, do not make taboo.
Relax
Do not worry that you know all the answers to children's questions: what you know is much less important than how you respond. If you convey a message that there are no issues, including sex, which is forbidden in your home, you will rest easy.
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