Saturday, January 12, 2013

How is your child independently?


When a child enters first grade must have a certain degree of autonomy, and to you that it is not restrained, if there is no good reason for it .

How is your child seven years (one year more or less) independently? It separates you from you with ease, for example, to spend a weekend with grandparents, extended family members or friends, or there are some problems in this regard?


Is excessively shy, regarding you, a timid temperament and caused you any problems in time to be separated from you and spend time with other people and the environment that is not his home?

The child in the above-mentioned age but should be quite alone, because it is a positive sign that is sure of itself and that has a stronger sense of identity. For example, at the start of primary school are very important and close friends are the people with whom resides and which play an important role in my life.During this period, more and more things will work only child, going to school and return, socializing with friends, preparing a simple breakfast, housekeeping and turndown service, setting the table for a meal, putting the dishes in the dishwasher, garbage iznaĆĄanja and so on ...

If your child has not reached that level of independence, there are certain methods that can improve the independence of the child.

It's a thin line between the normal child care and restraint, and her every parent needs to find. Every child has a different character, and to adapt to specific situations and specific needs. It is necessary to allow the child to explore, experiment, and to become independent and a unique individual.

Encourage independence

Children at this age are already well aware of the environment and therefore have a certain fear and insecurity. To mitigate, if not eliminate excessive shyness and introversion, try some activities such as trying out new foods, finding new friends, find a hobby, all without your intervention. Do not help him, and maybe even a child asked for your help. In fact, all we said was something I could do without you. You're just there to lead him in the right direction.

Teach your child that not everything will always get "served on a silver platter," but that will have to work harder for things. For example, only allow him to perform some tasks in the household, without your intervention, it may answer questions and stream it, but do some work for him to do.

At home

Offer your child to invite friends to him from the school because it is very important for a child at that age friends show room in which it lives, the place where he lives with the family, even after all that he possesses.This does not mean that your house or apartment should be a luxury, not great, and that everything should be a lot of nice new toys. Children is important to have fun, warm welcome and cozy atmosphere. Let your child choose what food and drink will offer their friends. All this is very important to build confidence.

The company ...

The child must be treated with respect, and by this I mean that you respect his individual, as long as it behaves normally for a child his age, and not a disorder and mischief, and no specific excesses that can not be tolerated.

For example, do not force a child to love family members, friends, etc.. if it does not want. It's just a normal greeting, without any contact. Allow him to set my own rules. Have a child on his way to show that she was happy to see his grandmother, grandfather, aunt, cousins, and in the end, and you ...

Sleeping away from home

If your child has not slept for close relatives or friends, the age of six or seven or eight years is definitely a time in which there should be no problems with separation from their parents that night or even for a long time, such as summer and winter holidays .. . Of course, if your child is going to pay, if you have a problem with saving routine to sleep, then he might as well wait to the enterprise. Until then organize a pajama party in your home and check how it will react to the returned calls by friends and relatives.

If your child is reluctant about sleeping away from home, tell them that everything will be fine, you can come home whenever he wants or example to talk on the phone. Tell him what to do on slumber party and it will be nice to spend, and it will soon come when morning to go home. Every parent knows that already "fallen" in the child. But be careful, do not tell lies or exaggerate, because you could easily backfire in the head.

What should I look out for?

If your child's behavior suddenly changed and instead of being open and always ready to socialize and "adventure", crying and protesting every time you or your partner have to leave sometime, and so on, the cause must be sought in the fact that the change in the child's life ? Are these family problems, is to go to school, changing classes, environmental, certain routines to which has hitherto been accustomed.

The problem of separation of the parents who take longer than four weeks, and adversely affect the life of your child, not something to be ignored, and it is recommended medical assistance - was a pediatrician, was a general practitioner and a psychiatrist or psychologist.

When a problem takes a long time, probably will not go away and I need to find a reason that can be deeper and more complicated than initially thought. Up to you to direct the child in the right direction to become a responsible and independent adolescent, and ultimately adult and such.

Do not stifle your child with uncertainties, potential problems and unreasonable fears for his safety. This is something on which you have and you just work! 

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