The changes that parenthood brings

Regardless of whether you are preparing for it for years, or there was an unplanned, parenting will change completely. Together with the children build a new, more complex, in any event more beautiful and more fulfilling life. However, at the beginning of the road waiting for you some surprises.

The relationship with your partner changed

Before you get your child, your partner and you've been inseparable - you had a myriad of topics for conversation, everywhere you went along ... and now barely share the occasional word. While you are both very like a child, growing tired, and therefore conflict, loneliness and depression.

Research shows that sixty-six percent of couples feel this way in the first year after birth of the child.

The good news is that most of the partners after exhausting the initial period manages to regain the closeness and even strengthen your relationship. The key is to express emotion - because, for once say how you feel, it will be easier.

It changes the relationship with friends

Friends? Where are they gone? Many friendships have been on a serious test when a parent became a member of the troupe. Night clubs, loud music, several hours of phone calls - for you have lost meaning, while your best friend's baby is not even a five-year plan. Priorities have changed, and with them the desire for conversation topics and interests.

However, children grow quickly, and soon they will not be required for all 24 hours a day. As you change your habits when you get a child, so you will want to return to the old rhythms of life when it poodraste.

They will begin to miss you friend, "female" conversations and thoughts, support and comfort. Renew friendships, then, you will stay for life.

Make "error" that you were horrified by the other parent

"Never say never" - this phrase many times in your life lightly used, but it gets a real sense only when we become parents. How many times have you shocked by seeing a child in the toy store real "scene". Do you firmly promised myself not to allow your child to be spoiled, that from birth to sleep only in her crib, it will not take in his arms every time you cry?

Surprise! Millions of parents around the world every day violate these promises, so that you do not have to be strict with yourself. But is there anything more beautiful than the smell of baby's skin while still sleeping in the safety of your arms? Is it not the most important thing in the world comforted a child who is crying?

Raising children is not the training which should be adhered to strictly prescribed rules. Parental intuition, unlimited patience and unconditional love, combined with imagination - is a formula for a happy child. And that is what matters most.

There will be days when you will not enjoy the role of parents

Parenting does not only gentle moments, games and laughter. Endless process of washing, cooking, ironing and changing nappies can really act frustrating. Many mothers stated that they sometimes felt the need to return to work, because it is open from nine am to five in the afternoon in the office seemed more attractive than the "office hours" at home. Of course, after such thoughts must follow a sense of guilt: "What am I to mother you do not enjoy every moment with my baby?".

Surveys conducted in the United States show that 80 percent of the young mom has this dilemma. So, accept the bad times as well as normal and move on. After all, nothing lasts forever, not even your child not to use diapers forever. As soon as you exit the "strenuous" phase, all you mind - you'll quickly forget that. The perfect mom maybe there somewhere, but we have yet to meet.

You are overwhelmed with emotions and difficult to control

Since you get a baby, you happen to strange things, like he does not know himself. Quickly change the channel when you run into a film in which the children are unhappy or sick. Stop you lump in my throat when you pass an abandoned puppy. Just to see or hug your child and to cry with joy ...

Whether it comes to hormones, gratitude, awe, or lack of sleep all together, parenting is "disturbed" your emotions. Even 78 percent of mothers surveyed said they now more often crying - that of sadness, and joy, and that they only allow motherhood to know what it means unconditional love.

Your child will become independent more quickly than expected

In a way, the child will be needed throughout life, but essentially - the act of birth marks the beginning of your separation. All the beauty and the weight of parenthood are in this knowledge. Your baby's first steps, first refusing to help because the child said to be only the first departure of the recreational education - all these are signs of growing up healthy, that will make you proud to meet.

But why are you sad at the same time? Unfortunately, there is a manual that will ease this dilemma, you have to rely on their own experience. Having a baby with you - it sounds very tempting, but such an attitude means more than your needs. What is it, in fact, necessary - is a help and encouragement to go his way.