Children do not have to pay bills or cook lunch but, just like adults, and they have their daily tasks and responsibilities that do not go smoothly. If frustrations and disappointments pile up, and children can not take care.
It is natural that children are sometimes worried, and because of differences in personality and temperament, it is expected that some of them care more than others. Fortunately, parents can help children cope with these feelings of tension and solve everyday problems with ease. Children who learn it, develop a sense of confidence and optimism that will help them to master the challenges of life, be it large or small.
Why do kids care?
The reasons are often associated with age and stage in which they are located. School children in the prepubertal period usually worry about things like grades, test tasks, changes in their bodies, integrate into society, a goal that they missed a soccer game, or whether it will get into it. Can not care about social issues such as gangs, the pressure of friends or whether someone is harassed, teased or left out of the group.
Because increasingly began to feel belonging to the wider world around them, pre-teen can not take care about events or issues in the world about which they hear in the news or in school. Things such as terrorism, war, pollution, global warming, endangered species, and natural disasters can become a source of everyday thinking.
How you can help children overcome what ails them:
Find out what's on their minds
Be available to process and interest to what is happening at your school, team, and with your children's friends. Use the sporadic moments to ask what's new. While listening to stories about the events of that day, do not forget to ask what your child thinks and how he feels about what happened.
If you think that your child is worried about something, ask. Encourage children to describe him what is bothering them. Looking for key details and listen carefully. Sometimes their cargo can ease just talking about the event.
Show that you care and understand
Showing interest in the care of your child shows you that it is important, and helps children gain a sense of support and understanding. Encouraging comments can help - but usually only after hearing the child. Tell the child to understand the feelings and problems.
Remember to hear positive things. Please take a some time for the good things that happen and let the children tell you what they think and how they feel about the success, achievements and positive experiences.
Solve the problem with the kids, not for them. Taking an active part, children learn how to independently solve problems.
Provide children to come up with solutions
You can help them worry less is to let them help you constructively deal with situations that cause wear.When your child point to a problem and offer to help in finding a common solution. If your son is worried about the upcoming mission control in mathematics, for example, offer to help him in learning, and so diminish his concern in this regard.
In most situations, you should refrain from the urge to jump in and solve the problem of your child - instead, think well together and come up with possible solutions.
Offer encouragement and comfort
Sometimes when children are concerned, what they need most is encouragement and comfort to parents. It could be a hug, a comforting word or spent together. This gesture helps children to know that, whatever happens, parents will be present with love and support.
Sometimes you have to show them how to get rid of some concern instead of whining over it. You have to know when it is time to move on and help the children to "change gears". Show time by importing the bright theme or activity that will create a more relaxed mood.
Show another angle
Children sometimes worry about things that have already occurred. Then parents can offer a view from a different angle and change a child's perspective. Maybe your daughter went to the hairdresser and returned home crying unhappy hair. Let them know that you understand how to shake, then that will remind her hair grow and help her come up with a good way of stylizing your hair in the meantime. If your son is concerned that it will participate in the game, remind him that there would be a lot - if you do not include this time, there will be other opportunities. Confirm him to know how much it matters, and tell him that you are - whatever the outcome - proud to be tried and did my best.
Without disparaging feelings of the child, point out that many of the problems temporary and manageable, and there will be better days and other options to try again. Teaching children to keep their problems in perspective can reduce their worries and help them build strength, resilience and optimism to try again.Remind your children that everything will be fine, whatever happens.
Make a difference
Sometimes children worry about the big things - such as terrorism, war or global warming - about which they hear at school or on the news. Parents can help by talking about these issues, providing accurate information and correcting any poor child's actions. Try to encourage the children talking about what adults do to solve the problem and protect themselves.
Be aware that your responses to global events affect the children. If you express your anger and stress of the global event that is beyond your control, the children will most likely react the same. But if you show concern by taking a proactive approach to make a positive difference, your children will feel more optimistic and more emboldened to do the same. Therefore, look for things you can do with your children to make sure that everything you do seems to make a positive change. You may not be able to go and stop the war, for example, but your family can contribute to an organization that works on issues of peace, or to help children in countries affected by war. Or your family can engage in some charity work to give your children the experience of volunteering.
Be a good role model
The strongest lessons our children are the ones that show them in person. Your response to their own care can serve as a way to teach their children how to cope with everyday challenges. If you are upset or angry when faced with too long a list of obligations, your child will learn that this is an appropriate response to stress.
Instead, insights, strengths and bestowing optimistic thoughts about their own situations, at least as much as the amount of talk about what is bothering you. Set a good example to their reactions to problems and obstacles. Optimistic and reliable answers teach your child that the problems are temporary and that tomorrow is a new day. Recovering from problems with a positive attitude will help your children to do the same.
It is natural that children are sometimes worried, and because of differences in personality and temperament, it is expected that some of them care more than others. Fortunately, parents can help children cope with these feelings of tension and solve everyday problems with ease. Children who learn it, develop a sense of confidence and optimism that will help them to master the challenges of life, be it large or small.
Why do kids care?
The reasons are often associated with age and stage in which they are located. School children in the prepubertal period usually worry about things like grades, test tasks, changes in their bodies, integrate into society, a goal that they missed a soccer game, or whether it will get into it. Can not care about social issues such as gangs, the pressure of friends or whether someone is harassed, teased or left out of the group.
Because increasingly began to feel belonging to the wider world around them, pre-teen can not take care about events or issues in the world about which they hear in the news or in school. Things such as terrorism, war, pollution, global warming, endangered species, and natural disasters can become a source of everyday thinking.
How you can help children overcome what ails them:
Find out what's on their minds
Be available to process and interest to what is happening at your school, team, and with your children's friends. Use the sporadic moments to ask what's new. While listening to stories about the events of that day, do not forget to ask what your child thinks and how he feels about what happened.
If you think that your child is worried about something, ask. Encourage children to describe him what is bothering them. Looking for key details and listen carefully. Sometimes their cargo can ease just talking about the event.
Show that you care and understand
Showing interest in the care of your child shows you that it is important, and helps children gain a sense of support and understanding. Encouraging comments can help - but usually only after hearing the child. Tell the child to understand the feelings and problems.
Remember to hear positive things. Please take a some time for the good things that happen and let the children tell you what they think and how they feel about the success, achievements and positive experiences.
Solve the problem with the kids, not for them. Taking an active part, children learn how to independently solve problems.
Provide children to come up with solutions
You can help them worry less is to let them help you constructively deal with situations that cause wear.When your child point to a problem and offer to help in finding a common solution. If your son is worried about the upcoming mission control in mathematics, for example, offer to help him in learning, and so diminish his concern in this regard.
In most situations, you should refrain from the urge to jump in and solve the problem of your child - instead, think well together and come up with possible solutions.
Offer encouragement and comfort
Sometimes when children are concerned, what they need most is encouragement and comfort to parents. It could be a hug, a comforting word or spent together. This gesture helps children to know that, whatever happens, parents will be present with love and support.
Sometimes you have to show them how to get rid of some concern instead of whining over it. You have to know when it is time to move on and help the children to "change gears". Show time by importing the bright theme or activity that will create a more relaxed mood.
Show another angle
Children sometimes worry about things that have already occurred. Then parents can offer a view from a different angle and change a child's perspective. Maybe your daughter went to the hairdresser and returned home crying unhappy hair. Let them know that you understand how to shake, then that will remind her hair grow and help her come up with a good way of stylizing your hair in the meantime. If your son is concerned that it will participate in the game, remind him that there would be a lot - if you do not include this time, there will be other opportunities. Confirm him to know how much it matters, and tell him that you are - whatever the outcome - proud to be tried and did my best.
Without disparaging feelings of the child, point out that many of the problems temporary and manageable, and there will be better days and other options to try again. Teaching children to keep their problems in perspective can reduce their worries and help them build strength, resilience and optimism to try again.Remind your children that everything will be fine, whatever happens.
Make a difference
Sometimes children worry about the big things - such as terrorism, war or global warming - about which they hear at school or on the news. Parents can help by talking about these issues, providing accurate information and correcting any poor child's actions. Try to encourage the children talking about what adults do to solve the problem and protect themselves.
Be aware that your responses to global events affect the children. If you express your anger and stress of the global event that is beyond your control, the children will most likely react the same. But if you show concern by taking a proactive approach to make a positive difference, your children will feel more optimistic and more emboldened to do the same. Therefore, look for things you can do with your children to make sure that everything you do seems to make a positive change. You may not be able to go and stop the war, for example, but your family can contribute to an organization that works on issues of peace, or to help children in countries affected by war. Or your family can engage in some charity work to give your children the experience of volunteering.
Be a good role model
The strongest lessons our children are the ones that show them in person. Your response to their own care can serve as a way to teach their children how to cope with everyday challenges. If you are upset or angry when faced with too long a list of obligations, your child will learn that this is an appropriate response to stress.
Instead, insights, strengths and bestowing optimistic thoughts about their own situations, at least as much as the amount of talk about what is bothering you. Set a good example to their reactions to problems and obstacles. Optimistic and reliable answers teach your child that the problems are temporary and that tomorrow is a new day. Recovering from problems with a positive attitude will help your children to do the same.
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