Your adolescent is acting weird lately, avoiding conversation with you, refusing to eat, often close to your room ... Worried and confused that whether it is the problem that you do not know, depression or just normal adolescence.
Adolescence (Latin adolescero means "become mature, ripen"), begins with reaching sexual maturity at puberty, while the upper limit on the time taken to achieve emotional and social maturity, which include experience, willingness and ability to assume the role of an adult, which means 24 years of age.
Each an expert in children or young people (I have the dilemma of how to address you, imagine what it's like them!), Will tell you that it is really difficult to draw a clear parallel. However, it is not impossible.
Symptoms of depression in adolescents
The main psychosocial task of adolescence is the formation of a solid personal identity which is determined by biological, psychological and social maturation. Identity formation is the process of finding answers to the question "who am", "I belong," "What I want to achieve," "what I want to be." Nature was not receptive to a little man who is trying to grow and find its place under the sun. On the contrary, the first barrier on the descent, if he had a "happy childhood" are physical changes.
During this period, peers occupy first place in the life of a young man, who had cuts and impose standards of beauty, as well as an indispensable media and other social factors. If our adolescent falls into depression, changes and his experience of body schema, which can manifest bulimia, yo-yo dieting, overeating or, in extreme cases, anorexia. In addition to disrupting diet, sleep patterns are also changing. Begins to excessive sleeping, escaping thus from himself, and may suffer from insomnia. Classroom calling you for an interview, because "child" gave way to terrible school, carelessly at the moment, those rare days when at school. You return from school astonished and realize that your child is not there. Are you waiting for it, mobile is not available, and night fell. Depressed children had run away from home, thereby sending the message that they want your help, as much as you seem illogical. He calls you father your adolescent friends, drawing your attention to them at an earlier return home he found that smoking pot.Unfortunately, substance abuse is a frequent companion of depression in young people, because that way they think they will escape their harsh reality.
Sexual identity
Gender Identity Disorder in adolescence is a specific form of psychopathology that is associated with the unsuccessful integration of psychological processes in the acceptance of their gender, their gender roles and general sexuality, that is. masculinity or femininity, with normal biological attributes half. Apart from going through various physical changes, gets a host of new roles that were not sufficiently prepared. So the answer is constant feeling of tension and anticipation that something bad is about to happen in certain situations, is generalized own belief that is inferior to the other, to society can not be accepted as such, and that no one may like. Extreme hypersensitivity may cause frequent bouts of crying, or contradictory to the fact, frequent outbursts of rage, anger and violence. Constantly surfing the Internet or playing games are a form of escape from reality and a way of supplementing the time caused a sharp reduction in social interaction, cessation training favorite sport or other hobby. Preoccupation with the idea that it could be rejected or criticized, afraid to surround yourself with people unless certain that they really like it leads to a teenager holding an old, well-known companies in the fear that they could be denied, redundant or simply bad accepted. He sees himself as ugly, worthless loser who is not worthy of anyone's attention and love.When these thoughts become dominant, depressed adolescent can think about radical exit - samoubstvu.Do not oglušivati some signal that sends-jokes at the expense of suicide, states that "it is better I would be if I were dead," "I'd like to disappear forever," "there is no way out." Positive attitude to death and its presentation of the romantic stories and poems, often apparently unintentional injury, excessive drinking, speeding cars, may be a reflection of the attitude towards life, or his contempt and the desire to completion.
What causes such a state?
Low socio-economic status, poor education and unemployment in the family may be risk factors. Poor family relationships and traumatic events in childhood leave a strong mark on the little guy who has yet to take shape. If the spouses have affective or other psychiatric disorders, the behavior of a family member fits into the pattern of antisocial, with that usually goes along with substance abuse and / or alcohol, chances are that the child is developing. "Learned helplessness", which will almost certainly take steps to depression. If you often argue with their spouse, thereby entering and physical conflicts, make sure you do not do it in front of children and seek professional help family therapist. Do not neglect a child for her career, frequent changes of residence, permanent absence from home, divorce, death of a family member ... Be sure not to place heavy demands it. Ask yourself first what the child really wants and what he can.Children who have been physically or sexually abused are more likely to get sick from depression than their peers, and children who grow up in rigid families.
My child is depressed. What next?
To start the talk. Let him know that you are with him no matter what and it is completely unconditional. Do not panic, attack him and ask him unnecessary questions. It is important to let him know that you are willing and ready to give him support in any way. The first reaction of the adolescent "accused" of depression is often close and silence. Talking about the problems at that age is very difficult. Observe the extent to which your child is open, point to sympathize with him and that you are willing to listen to him when he's ready.
If a child says that there is a problem, do not ignore your instincts and symptoms that you observed, taking into account their severity and duration. Keep in mind that a strong defense mechanism of denial that there is a possibility that your little man who does not recognize that there is a problem. It would be best to your little one and you seek counseling psychologist or psychiatrist. You might have exaggerated the symptoms, but it's better to calm the conscience of an expert, right?
* What's youthful depression?
Youthful depression is a phenomenon which is often, and increasingly, young people face in the process of maturing. It is a complex, insidious and dangerous phenomenon. Complex because of the many complex causes and consequences.
Insidious because it almost always goes unnoticed, even by a teenager who experiences it, until it comes to more serious consequences. It is dangerous because depression can result in many negative consequences of school failure, social withdrawal, alcohol, drugs, delinquency ... to suicide.
* How to recognize?
Teenage depression is difficult to identify because its symptoms are different from the classic symptoms of adult depression. For example, slightly depressed teenager behaves and speaks normally. There are no external signs of depression. Mild teenage depression is manifested by gloomy fantasies, daydreams or dark dreams. Mild depression may, at this stage, to identify a small number of professionals who are familiar with this phenomenon, or very sensitive parents and educators who understand the psychology of teenagers and the content of his thoughts.
Moderately depressed teenager also speaks and behaves normally. However, moderate depression affect the topics to talk teenager. They are mostly depressing topics like death, morbid problems and crises.Given that today mngo adults think in a pessimistic way, teenagers depression can go unnoticed. Mild depression can severely affect the functioning of adults. It can cause sleep disorders, feeding, and onesposobni to perform professional and parental responsibilities. Moderate depression teenagers is just as serious as adult depression.
Moderately depressed adult usually looks bad, feels miserable and unable for most everyday tasks. But, the teenager looks depressed mainly in major depression. Teenage depression is difficult to recognize because teenagers are good at "masking", that is, they can hide it by acting as if they are good, even if you feel completely miserable ("down in the dumps"). This is often called "depression with a smile." They hide depression, especially when there are other people. If we consider such a teenager when he thinks no one is looking, we can see an amazing transformation in the face.
* Detecting juvenile depression
The best way to recognize depression in teenagers is to learn what the different symptoms of depression and how they develop. It is important to understand the full and detailed picture of symptoms for one or two symptoms may or may not be true to indicate depression. It is important to recognize depression youthful as soon as it is depressed teenager susceptible to harmful peer pressure, a potential victim of drugs, alcohol, inappropriate sexual experiences may engage in fraud and other forms of antisocial behavior, including suicide.
Before examining the individual symptoms of adolescent depression, we need to understand that depressed adolescents may have one or more of the classic symptoms of adult depression, including feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, despondency and despair, sleep problems (either too much or too little sleep), problems with nutrition , (excessive or insufficient weight gain or weight loss), lack of energy, lack of self-esteem, problems with containment of anger.
* The specific symptoms adolescent depression
* Problems concentrating. The first symptom of teenage depression is mild shortening of attention. A teenager can not long be focused on a single topic. His thoughts run away from what he wants to focus and becomes rastreseniji. More often catch myself daydreaming. The problem with short attention becomes evident when a teenager tries to do homework. All of which is difficult to think of what he's doing, and it seems that a less achieved the more trying. This of course leads to frustration and a teenager then blamed himself as "stupid" and "dull". Therefore assumes that intellectual unteachable, which reduces its sampopštovanje.
* Dreaming. Shortening attention affects teenagers in school because most of the hours daydreaming. When the depression deepens, the teenager increasing proportion of his time daydreaming. At this stage, the teacher can easily recognize depression. Bažalost, daydreaming is usually interpreted as laziness and bad behavior. However, it should be borne in mind that only one or two symptoms reported separately are not enough to say that a depressed teenager. We need to consider the gradual development of complex symptoms.
* Poor school performance. Weakening score is mostly gradual and teachers and parents usually assume that I work for teenagers too hard, that he "hates" it works because it's lazy or because he is more interested in other things. When the score suddenly breaks down, it is more likely to take into account the possibility that the adolesents depressed him "something is bothering you."
* Bored ("a pain"). When a teenager more and more dreams, gradually sliding into boredom. Solicitation is normal for teenagers, especially in early adolescence, but only in the short term. Normally solicitation takes an hour or two, sometimes all night or day, sometimes even two days. But annoyance that lasts several days or more is not normal and should be a warning to us that something is wrong. It's one of the things that make me very zabinjavaju of today's adolescents, the prolonged "pain in the ass." Solicitation is often manifested in teenagers by more and more time I want to spend in your room. He then just lying in bed daydreaming or listening to music, or "staring" at the computer playing games, "hanging" on facebook and the like. A teenager who is bored losing interest in those things they once enjoyed, such as sports, social activities, outings ...
* Somatic depression. As the solicitation continues and deepens, teen gradually falls in moderate depression. Then he begins to suffer from some physical symptoms of depression. Moderately depressed teen often begins to feel physical pain in many places, but mostly in the chest or a headache.
* Withdrawal. In such a miserable teenager may withdraw from peers. He will not easily avoided, but usually dispose of them, expressing hostility, aggression, rudeness ... As a result, the teenager becomes very lonely, and considering that he rejected the old friends would rather hang out with polupoznatim peers who may use drugs or are often in trouble. Even in this state, the teenager is rarely aware of his depression.
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Specific symptoms of juvenile depression
Problems concentrating, daydreaming, poor school performance, annoyance (a pain), somatic depression, withdrawal.
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* Expression of depression in adolescents
Teenagers offenses arising out of depression called "expression of depression." Young men are more prone to violence than girls. They try to alleviate the symptoms of depression, stealing, lying, fast driving, or other forms of socially unacceptable behavior. Doing something exciting and dangerous seems to somehow relieves the pain of depression. Breaking into someone else's house or graffiti on forbidden places ... brings a sense of excitement (in depressive boredom), and because many depressed young men do. The girls express their depression in a less aggressive way (although this trend is changing). They often express their depression, sexual promiscuity, depression alleviating pain during close physical relationship. However, these unfortunate girls, usually after sex feel worse, more depressing than they were before because of self-abasement. Depression and lack of confidence are the basis of most girl's promiscuity.
Depressed teenager can also express their depression is drogirajući. Marijuana and depression are a very dangerous combination, because marijuana makes you depressed teenager feels better. (Many teenagers do not consider marijuana or "weed" drug, and think that it is harmless. "Well, all blow," say) Marijuana is not an antidepressant. It blocks the pain of depression. A teenager feels better just because they feel less pain.Of course, when marijuana wears off, the pain comes back depressed. That could then achieve the same degree of pain relief, after the teenager has to take a larger amount. He slowly becomes a "Smoke weed" ... as long as it does not become sufficiently ... followed by a stronger one.
An obvious way in which a teenager may express depression attempt suicide. Sometimes a suicide attempt just a gesture in which teenager does not really want to die, but likes the attention.
* How can we help
What can we do to help a depressed adolescent? First of all, we have the time to find out depressed. This means that we must be aware of the symptoms of adolescent depression. It is especially important to note for parents, teachers, school counselors and others who work with youth. While depression is mild, it is relatively easy to stop the process and alleviate it.
Although the majority of juvenile depression has complex causes, often a specific factor or event that finally broke teenagers and start full the sklom symptoms. This means, for example, can lead to death or illness or departure of a person means a teenager, disappointments such as divorce or arguing parents, or moving to an undesirable place, problems with acceptance by peers, love "woes", etc ... In such situations teenager feels lonely, abandoned and unloved. First of all, it is important to show him that we care about him and love him. We do spending enough time with him to his psychological defenses caved in and be with us to talk sensibly. Then we will help you in expressing love, above all, eye contact, physical contact and focused attention. Do not make the permit to be fooled by an adolescent in appearance, refuses to communicate with you. It's just his defense. Take him somewhere where you will not be alone, talk about anything that is his actual. After a while, you relax, openers gradually. If you refuse physical contact, do it discreetly, by the way, while watching TV or on the computer, in passing ... It does not matter that he is not paying attention. Believe me, the manifestation of love are recorded in it.
If the problem is a conflict within the family, such as divorce, teens need help to cope with feelings. In particular, he needs to realize that he is not to blame for the divorce and that he could not do anything to prevent it to happen. Teenagers are very sensitive to the problems between their parents. Although it may be true that they do not matter a great mistake to believe that they did not care, even when separated and left home.
When adolescent depression becomes moderate or severe, there are more serious consequences. It affects the thinking process. Adolescent gradually loses the ability to think clearly, logically and rationally. Losing the ability of maintaining a healthy perspective, it has increasingly focused negative things and his perception of reality is distorted, especially misreading the opinions of others about themselves.Increasingly believe that all dark, that nothing is worth the time spent and not really worth living. In such situations it is necessary to seek professional help. This youthful depression is not just a passing phase, and can get worse if we do not recognize and do not start doing something to overcome it.
* Teenage anger and depression
Many parents assumed that teenage anger bad or abnormal, and that it should suppress and disallow. This is a terrible mistake. The feeling of anger is in itself neither good nor bad. Anger is a normal, and everyone will be Đivo it feels. The problem I have is not anger, but anger management, and how many are wrong. It is necessary to understand that there are different ways of managing anger and know which is the best. Let's start with the worst ways to cope with anger, and that's passive aggressive behavior.
Passive aggressive behavior is the opposite of an open, honest, direct and verbal expression of anger. It is a manifestation of the wrath that is indirectly returned to the person. A mild example of this delay, waste of time, stubbornness, intentional inefficiency, "forgetfulness" ... Subconscious purpose of passive aggressive behavior is that upsets parents and make them angry. Passive aggressive behavior is the refusal to take responsibility for their own behavior. Passive aggressive techniques of keeping anger under control are indirect, cunning, self-defense and harmful. It is mostly subconsciously motivated, that is, the child is not aware that this behavior is used to loosen the accumulated anger and upset parents. Passive aggressive behavior causes problems, from poor grades to drugs or suicide.
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Adolescent is ready (not) to do much of its damage to, thus, discharged their anger towards their parents or carers. Depression is often anger turned towards himself, with unconscious motivation that this injury causes anger.
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A small child can express passive aggressive behavior by, for example, begin again to pee in your pants.Teenagers passive aggressive behavior can have disastrous consequences for himself (failure in school, drug use, smoking, getting pregnant, ... all of which will upset the parents.)
Passive aggressive behavior occurs when teachers do not understand the outrage, they think it's wrong and that it must restrain its expression. If you hamper the expression of anger, the anger will not go away. He will be pushed into the subconscious, where it will remain unresolved, waiting to later be manifested by inappropriate behavior and / or passive aggressive behavior.
Another mistake made by some parents, and refers to the expression of anger is an inappropriate use of humor. Whenever a person becomes angry, some parents use humor to resolve tensions (sometimes it's mocking the joke). Humor is, of course, invaluable for any family. But if you are constantly used to avoid appropriate treatment of anger, teens can learn how to properly deal with anger.
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Passive aggressive behavior is the absolute worst form of expression of anger because:
* It can easily become ingrained, enduring pattern of behavior
* It can distort a person's personality and the person so completely uncomfortable
* It can affect all future relationships of adolescents
* It is a behavioral disorder that is difficult to resolve.
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Parents, if your teen expresses their anger verbally, even if it is unpleasant that it is much better than the passive aggressive behavior. One of the most important lessons of growing up and gaining maturity is coping with anger in an appropriate and mature manner. Children will tend to exhibit immature anger in until someone proves otherwise. We can not expect teenagers to express anger automatic document the best and most mature way. Learning to overcome the wrath of mature leaves gradually, and passes through a number of steps:
Ladder of anger management:
* Fully disorderly conduct - When a person has tantrums, destroying property or violent towards another person (even the kind of behavior easier to correct than passive aggressive)
* A verbal outburst, but no physical violence, limited to shouting, screaming, swearing. Anger is not only directed at the person you are angry, but to anyone who is nearby.
* Embarrassing verbal expression (loud, yelling ...) but no insults and swearing ... but still not focusing only on the person who is the challenger, but to everyone ...
* Embarrassed expression (yelling, screaming ...) but limited to the subject and the person who has caused.
* The manifestation of the friendly and sensible manner, if possible according to the person who caused the anger.
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Each power-scale anger in an improvement in the expression of anger, and teenagers should be commended for any progress, no matter what our advanced and expression of anger can be uncomfortable. That will help him to move to the next step on the ladder of expression of anger. Of course, the crucial step is where the ladder expression of anger is an educator. We can not ask the children what we ourselves are not able to do.
Adolescence (Latin adolescero means "become mature, ripen"), begins with reaching sexual maturity at puberty, while the upper limit on the time taken to achieve emotional and social maturity, which include experience, willingness and ability to assume the role of an adult, which means 24 years of age.
Each an expert in children or young people (I have the dilemma of how to address you, imagine what it's like them!), Will tell you that it is really difficult to draw a clear parallel. However, it is not impossible.
Symptoms of depression in adolescents
The main psychosocial task of adolescence is the formation of a solid personal identity which is determined by biological, psychological and social maturation. Identity formation is the process of finding answers to the question "who am", "I belong," "What I want to achieve," "what I want to be." Nature was not receptive to a little man who is trying to grow and find its place under the sun. On the contrary, the first barrier on the descent, if he had a "happy childhood" are physical changes.
During this period, peers occupy first place in the life of a young man, who had cuts and impose standards of beauty, as well as an indispensable media and other social factors. If our adolescent falls into depression, changes and his experience of body schema, which can manifest bulimia, yo-yo dieting, overeating or, in extreme cases, anorexia. In addition to disrupting diet, sleep patterns are also changing. Begins to excessive sleeping, escaping thus from himself, and may suffer from insomnia. Classroom calling you for an interview, because "child" gave way to terrible school, carelessly at the moment, those rare days when at school. You return from school astonished and realize that your child is not there. Are you waiting for it, mobile is not available, and night fell. Depressed children had run away from home, thereby sending the message that they want your help, as much as you seem illogical. He calls you father your adolescent friends, drawing your attention to them at an earlier return home he found that smoking pot.Unfortunately, substance abuse is a frequent companion of depression in young people, because that way they think they will escape their harsh reality.
Sexual identity
Gender Identity Disorder in adolescence is a specific form of psychopathology that is associated with the unsuccessful integration of psychological processes in the acceptance of their gender, their gender roles and general sexuality, that is. masculinity or femininity, with normal biological attributes half. Apart from going through various physical changes, gets a host of new roles that were not sufficiently prepared. So the answer is constant feeling of tension and anticipation that something bad is about to happen in certain situations, is generalized own belief that is inferior to the other, to society can not be accepted as such, and that no one may like. Extreme hypersensitivity may cause frequent bouts of crying, or contradictory to the fact, frequent outbursts of rage, anger and violence. Constantly surfing the Internet or playing games are a form of escape from reality and a way of supplementing the time caused a sharp reduction in social interaction, cessation training favorite sport or other hobby. Preoccupation with the idea that it could be rejected or criticized, afraid to surround yourself with people unless certain that they really like it leads to a teenager holding an old, well-known companies in the fear that they could be denied, redundant or simply bad accepted. He sees himself as ugly, worthless loser who is not worthy of anyone's attention and love.When these thoughts become dominant, depressed adolescent can think about radical exit - samoubstvu.Do not oglušivati some signal that sends-jokes at the expense of suicide, states that "it is better I would be if I were dead," "I'd like to disappear forever," "there is no way out." Positive attitude to death and its presentation of the romantic stories and poems, often apparently unintentional injury, excessive drinking, speeding cars, may be a reflection of the attitude towards life, or his contempt and the desire to completion.
What causes such a state?
Low socio-economic status, poor education and unemployment in the family may be risk factors. Poor family relationships and traumatic events in childhood leave a strong mark on the little guy who has yet to take shape. If the spouses have affective or other psychiatric disorders, the behavior of a family member fits into the pattern of antisocial, with that usually goes along with substance abuse and / or alcohol, chances are that the child is developing. "Learned helplessness", which will almost certainly take steps to depression. If you often argue with their spouse, thereby entering and physical conflicts, make sure you do not do it in front of children and seek professional help family therapist. Do not neglect a child for her career, frequent changes of residence, permanent absence from home, divorce, death of a family member ... Be sure not to place heavy demands it. Ask yourself first what the child really wants and what he can.Children who have been physically or sexually abused are more likely to get sick from depression than their peers, and children who grow up in rigid families.
My child is depressed. What next?
To start the talk. Let him know that you are with him no matter what and it is completely unconditional. Do not panic, attack him and ask him unnecessary questions. It is important to let him know that you are willing and ready to give him support in any way. The first reaction of the adolescent "accused" of depression is often close and silence. Talking about the problems at that age is very difficult. Observe the extent to which your child is open, point to sympathize with him and that you are willing to listen to him when he's ready.
If a child says that there is a problem, do not ignore your instincts and symptoms that you observed, taking into account their severity and duration. Keep in mind that a strong defense mechanism of denial that there is a possibility that your little man who does not recognize that there is a problem. It would be best to your little one and you seek counseling psychologist or psychiatrist. You might have exaggerated the symptoms, but it's better to calm the conscience of an expert, right?
* What's youthful depression?
Youthful depression is a phenomenon which is often, and increasingly, young people face in the process of maturing. It is a complex, insidious and dangerous phenomenon. Complex because of the many complex causes and consequences.
Insidious because it almost always goes unnoticed, even by a teenager who experiences it, until it comes to more serious consequences. It is dangerous because depression can result in many negative consequences of school failure, social withdrawal, alcohol, drugs, delinquency ... to suicide.
* How to recognize?
Teenage depression is difficult to identify because its symptoms are different from the classic symptoms of adult depression. For example, slightly depressed teenager behaves and speaks normally. There are no external signs of depression. Mild teenage depression is manifested by gloomy fantasies, daydreams or dark dreams. Mild depression may, at this stage, to identify a small number of professionals who are familiar with this phenomenon, or very sensitive parents and educators who understand the psychology of teenagers and the content of his thoughts.
Moderately depressed teenager also speaks and behaves normally. However, moderate depression affect the topics to talk teenager. They are mostly depressing topics like death, morbid problems and crises.Given that today mngo adults think in a pessimistic way, teenagers depression can go unnoticed. Mild depression can severely affect the functioning of adults. It can cause sleep disorders, feeding, and onesposobni to perform professional and parental responsibilities. Moderate depression teenagers is just as serious as adult depression.
Moderately depressed adult usually looks bad, feels miserable and unable for most everyday tasks. But, the teenager looks depressed mainly in major depression. Teenage depression is difficult to recognize because teenagers are good at "masking", that is, they can hide it by acting as if they are good, even if you feel completely miserable ("down in the dumps"). This is often called "depression with a smile." They hide depression, especially when there are other people. If we consider such a teenager when he thinks no one is looking, we can see an amazing transformation in the face.
* Detecting juvenile depression
The best way to recognize depression in teenagers is to learn what the different symptoms of depression and how they develop. It is important to understand the full and detailed picture of symptoms for one or two symptoms may or may not be true to indicate depression. It is important to recognize depression youthful as soon as it is depressed teenager susceptible to harmful peer pressure, a potential victim of drugs, alcohol, inappropriate sexual experiences may engage in fraud and other forms of antisocial behavior, including suicide.
Before examining the individual symptoms of adolescent depression, we need to understand that depressed adolescents may have one or more of the classic symptoms of adult depression, including feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, despondency and despair, sleep problems (either too much or too little sleep), problems with nutrition , (excessive or insufficient weight gain or weight loss), lack of energy, lack of self-esteem, problems with containment of anger.
* The specific symptoms adolescent depression
* Problems concentrating. The first symptom of teenage depression is mild shortening of attention. A teenager can not long be focused on a single topic. His thoughts run away from what he wants to focus and becomes rastreseniji. More often catch myself daydreaming. The problem with short attention becomes evident when a teenager tries to do homework. All of which is difficult to think of what he's doing, and it seems that a less achieved the more trying. This of course leads to frustration and a teenager then blamed himself as "stupid" and "dull". Therefore assumes that intellectual unteachable, which reduces its sampopštovanje.
* Dreaming. Shortening attention affects teenagers in school because most of the hours daydreaming. When the depression deepens, the teenager increasing proportion of his time daydreaming. At this stage, the teacher can easily recognize depression. Bažalost, daydreaming is usually interpreted as laziness and bad behavior. However, it should be borne in mind that only one or two symptoms reported separately are not enough to say that a depressed teenager. We need to consider the gradual development of complex symptoms.
* Poor school performance. Weakening score is mostly gradual and teachers and parents usually assume that I work for teenagers too hard, that he "hates" it works because it's lazy or because he is more interested in other things. When the score suddenly breaks down, it is more likely to take into account the possibility that the adolesents depressed him "something is bothering you."
* Bored ("a pain"). When a teenager more and more dreams, gradually sliding into boredom. Solicitation is normal for teenagers, especially in early adolescence, but only in the short term. Normally solicitation takes an hour or two, sometimes all night or day, sometimes even two days. But annoyance that lasts several days or more is not normal and should be a warning to us that something is wrong. It's one of the things that make me very zabinjavaju of today's adolescents, the prolonged "pain in the ass." Solicitation is often manifested in teenagers by more and more time I want to spend in your room. He then just lying in bed daydreaming or listening to music, or "staring" at the computer playing games, "hanging" on facebook and the like. A teenager who is bored losing interest in those things they once enjoyed, such as sports, social activities, outings ...
* Somatic depression. As the solicitation continues and deepens, teen gradually falls in moderate depression. Then he begins to suffer from some physical symptoms of depression. Moderately depressed teen often begins to feel physical pain in many places, but mostly in the chest or a headache.
* Withdrawal. In such a miserable teenager may withdraw from peers. He will not easily avoided, but usually dispose of them, expressing hostility, aggression, rudeness ... As a result, the teenager becomes very lonely, and considering that he rejected the old friends would rather hang out with polupoznatim peers who may use drugs or are often in trouble. Even in this state, the teenager is rarely aware of his depression.
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Specific symptoms of juvenile depression
Problems concentrating, daydreaming, poor school performance, annoyance (a pain), somatic depression, withdrawal.
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* Expression of depression in adolescents
Teenagers offenses arising out of depression called "expression of depression." Young men are more prone to violence than girls. They try to alleviate the symptoms of depression, stealing, lying, fast driving, or other forms of socially unacceptable behavior. Doing something exciting and dangerous seems to somehow relieves the pain of depression. Breaking into someone else's house or graffiti on forbidden places ... brings a sense of excitement (in depressive boredom), and because many depressed young men do. The girls express their depression in a less aggressive way (although this trend is changing). They often express their depression, sexual promiscuity, depression alleviating pain during close physical relationship. However, these unfortunate girls, usually after sex feel worse, more depressing than they were before because of self-abasement. Depression and lack of confidence are the basis of most girl's promiscuity.
Depressed teenager can also express their depression is drogirajući. Marijuana and depression are a very dangerous combination, because marijuana makes you depressed teenager feels better. (Many teenagers do not consider marijuana or "weed" drug, and think that it is harmless. "Well, all blow," say) Marijuana is not an antidepressant. It blocks the pain of depression. A teenager feels better just because they feel less pain.Of course, when marijuana wears off, the pain comes back depressed. That could then achieve the same degree of pain relief, after the teenager has to take a larger amount. He slowly becomes a "Smoke weed" ... as long as it does not become sufficiently ... followed by a stronger one.
An obvious way in which a teenager may express depression attempt suicide. Sometimes a suicide attempt just a gesture in which teenager does not really want to die, but likes the attention.
* How can we help
What can we do to help a depressed adolescent? First of all, we have the time to find out depressed. This means that we must be aware of the symptoms of adolescent depression. It is especially important to note for parents, teachers, school counselors and others who work with youth. While depression is mild, it is relatively easy to stop the process and alleviate it.
Although the majority of juvenile depression has complex causes, often a specific factor or event that finally broke teenagers and start full the sklom symptoms. This means, for example, can lead to death or illness or departure of a person means a teenager, disappointments such as divorce or arguing parents, or moving to an undesirable place, problems with acceptance by peers, love "woes", etc ... In such situations teenager feels lonely, abandoned and unloved. First of all, it is important to show him that we care about him and love him. We do spending enough time with him to his psychological defenses caved in and be with us to talk sensibly. Then we will help you in expressing love, above all, eye contact, physical contact and focused attention. Do not make the permit to be fooled by an adolescent in appearance, refuses to communicate with you. It's just his defense. Take him somewhere where you will not be alone, talk about anything that is his actual. After a while, you relax, openers gradually. If you refuse physical contact, do it discreetly, by the way, while watching TV or on the computer, in passing ... It does not matter that he is not paying attention. Believe me, the manifestation of love are recorded in it.
If the problem is a conflict within the family, such as divorce, teens need help to cope with feelings. In particular, he needs to realize that he is not to blame for the divorce and that he could not do anything to prevent it to happen. Teenagers are very sensitive to the problems between their parents. Although it may be true that they do not matter a great mistake to believe that they did not care, even when separated and left home.
When adolescent depression becomes moderate or severe, there are more serious consequences. It affects the thinking process. Adolescent gradually loses the ability to think clearly, logically and rationally. Losing the ability of maintaining a healthy perspective, it has increasingly focused negative things and his perception of reality is distorted, especially misreading the opinions of others about themselves.Increasingly believe that all dark, that nothing is worth the time spent and not really worth living. In such situations it is necessary to seek professional help. This youthful depression is not just a passing phase, and can get worse if we do not recognize and do not start doing something to overcome it.
* Teenage anger and depression
Many parents assumed that teenage anger bad or abnormal, and that it should suppress and disallow. This is a terrible mistake. The feeling of anger is in itself neither good nor bad. Anger is a normal, and everyone will be Đivo it feels. The problem I have is not anger, but anger management, and how many are wrong. It is necessary to understand that there are different ways of managing anger and know which is the best. Let's start with the worst ways to cope with anger, and that's passive aggressive behavior.
Passive aggressive behavior is the opposite of an open, honest, direct and verbal expression of anger. It is a manifestation of the wrath that is indirectly returned to the person. A mild example of this delay, waste of time, stubbornness, intentional inefficiency, "forgetfulness" ... Subconscious purpose of passive aggressive behavior is that upsets parents and make them angry. Passive aggressive behavior is the refusal to take responsibility for their own behavior. Passive aggressive techniques of keeping anger under control are indirect, cunning, self-defense and harmful. It is mostly subconsciously motivated, that is, the child is not aware that this behavior is used to loosen the accumulated anger and upset parents. Passive aggressive behavior causes problems, from poor grades to drugs or suicide.
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Adolescent is ready (not) to do much of its damage to, thus, discharged their anger towards their parents or carers. Depression is often anger turned towards himself, with unconscious motivation that this injury causes anger.
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A small child can express passive aggressive behavior by, for example, begin again to pee in your pants.Teenagers passive aggressive behavior can have disastrous consequences for himself (failure in school, drug use, smoking, getting pregnant, ... all of which will upset the parents.)
Passive aggressive behavior occurs when teachers do not understand the outrage, they think it's wrong and that it must restrain its expression. If you hamper the expression of anger, the anger will not go away. He will be pushed into the subconscious, where it will remain unresolved, waiting to later be manifested by inappropriate behavior and / or passive aggressive behavior.
Another mistake made by some parents, and refers to the expression of anger is an inappropriate use of humor. Whenever a person becomes angry, some parents use humor to resolve tensions (sometimes it's mocking the joke). Humor is, of course, invaluable for any family. But if you are constantly used to avoid appropriate treatment of anger, teens can learn how to properly deal with anger.
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Passive aggressive behavior is the absolute worst form of expression of anger because:
* It can easily become ingrained, enduring pattern of behavior
* It can distort a person's personality and the person so completely uncomfortable
* It can affect all future relationships of adolescents
* It is a behavioral disorder that is difficult to resolve.
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Parents, if your teen expresses their anger verbally, even if it is unpleasant that it is much better than the passive aggressive behavior. One of the most important lessons of growing up and gaining maturity is coping with anger in an appropriate and mature manner. Children will tend to exhibit immature anger in until someone proves otherwise. We can not expect teenagers to express anger automatic document the best and most mature way. Learning to overcome the wrath of mature leaves gradually, and passes through a number of steps:
Ladder of anger management:
* Fully disorderly conduct - When a person has tantrums, destroying property or violent towards another person (even the kind of behavior easier to correct than passive aggressive)
* A verbal outburst, but no physical violence, limited to shouting, screaming, swearing. Anger is not only directed at the person you are angry, but to anyone who is nearby.
* Embarrassing verbal expression (loud, yelling ...) but no insults and swearing ... but still not focusing only on the person who is the challenger, but to everyone ...
* Embarrassed expression (yelling, screaming ...) but limited to the subject and the person who has caused.
* The manifestation of the friendly and sensible manner, if possible according to the person who caused the anger.
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Each power-scale anger in an improvement in the expression of anger, and teenagers should be commended for any progress, no matter what our advanced and expression of anger can be uncomfortable. That will help him to move to the next step on the ladder of expression of anger. Of course, the crucial step is where the ladder expression of anger is an educator. We can not ask the children what we ourselves are not able to do.
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