"If you yourself to get the nose you'll get chocolate"
"Thank you arranged room. Now we in the park. "
"I will buy you a balloon if you promise to be nice to the doctor"
What is the difference between bribes and rewards? Bribery involves the offer of something precious child to lead him to do what you tell him (the first and third examples are bribery). Award (second example) is something that happens after performing the task. Did essential, as long as your child cooperate? Depends on what you want him to learn. Do you want a child who will be willing to do things only when it is at least something to draw? Child that every time you need something to do first is to ask "what do I get it?" Either you like to teach him to cooperate or when workin be satisfied with the job? That work comes before play?That is fair to take into account the needs of other people? Do you like his parents happy when you help and therefore have more time and energy to it? Of course, some of these things that it can not understand at this age but it is important to establish rules and establish a family culture and education to the true values. For education is most effective at times focused on rewarding effort. In this way, you learn that your child weighs success because it truly motivate. Anyone of us in a hurry, or the desire to motivate a child can take bribing or rewarding, but caution in the way we transfer our personal beliefs and methods are still worth it. It is quite understandable that say "you I willl read it once when you dressed pajamas" or "When the toys are in the place we go to the park" but bribery and especially material rewards every time they want to cooperate may cost us dearly. Returning to the example above, offering chocolate can cause an immediate response to wear running but your child will also learn how to really use the potty. And gratuitous balloon before leaving the doctor will not motivate a child to hold promise, but since when has the prize in his hands why should they? Children of this age living in the present because it still does not have enough cognitive skills and do not govern impulse control that would help them to think in advance. Because of this, it can not promise you anything, whatever the prize. Moreover, bribing children is surely a sword with two blades. Children are very clever and should therefore never underestimate. Very soon will begin to seek greater rewards as they grew up, or refuse to do anything if they are not waiting at the end of any prize.Also, if you are constantly giving rewards for good behavior and then one day you're given, your child may give up or stop trying. In most cases, it is best to give your child fancied pleasure of praise for his efforts.Sometimes you have to be able to offer a small reward as a natural consequence of the child 's cooperation.And psychologists agree that the education of effective occasionally rewarding, and it focused on effort rather than on achievement. This way your child will learn to strive for success because it will be truly motivated. Imposing praise Everyone loves praise after a job well done, even children. It is quite natural that the blossoming of luck for every little thing that your child do - everything is sweet, fun and learning new things everyday. How to put off that he does not say how wise? But just like with the reward, should be careful when praising. Spontaneous reaction surprises will not hurt anyone, but if you praise every movement of your child, you can fall into the trap of excessive expectations. Specifically, this much praise can create the feeling of a child that you love him only when something works well and can start to be afraid of failure. In this way, can become dependent on the opinions of other people are too scared to have tried new things. positive praise Instead of constantly repeating "How nice drawing!" making sure that the child make a real compliment as "How did you use beautiful color". The same principle should be applied in all fields and to say very specific things like: "Congratulations you have been quiet while I'm talking phone", "See how can I wear that jacket!", "Way to go, remember that you can close the door "Consequently, this show honors the child to appreciate his effort and it does not send the empty words of praise which generally do not have to believe. In addition, the children in this way begins to believe in yourself and your abilities. Another important thing is that we should not ignore the moments when the child is "good." If you pay attention to all sorts of errors, do not forget to "compensate" praise appropriate behavior.
"I will buy you a balloon if you promise to be nice to the doctor"
What is the difference between bribes and rewards? Bribery involves the offer of something precious child to lead him to do what you tell him (the first and third examples are bribery). Award (second example) is something that happens after performing the task. Did essential, as long as your child cooperate? Depends on what you want him to learn. Do you want a child who will be willing to do things only when it is at least something to draw? Child that every time you need something to do first is to ask "what do I get it?" Either you like to teach him to cooperate or when workin be satisfied with the job? That work comes before play?That is fair to take into account the needs of other people? Do you like his parents happy when you help and therefore have more time and energy to it? Of course, some of these things that it can not understand at this age but it is important to establish rules and establish a family culture and education to the true values. For education is most effective at times focused on rewarding effort. In this way, you learn that your child weighs success because it truly motivate. Anyone of us in a hurry, or the desire to motivate a child can take bribing or rewarding, but caution in the way we transfer our personal beliefs and methods are still worth it. It is quite understandable that say "you I willl read it once when you dressed pajamas" or "When the toys are in the place we go to the park" but bribery and especially material rewards every time they want to cooperate may cost us dearly. Returning to the example above, offering chocolate can cause an immediate response to wear running but your child will also learn how to really use the potty. And gratuitous balloon before leaving the doctor will not motivate a child to hold promise, but since when has the prize in his hands why should they? Children of this age living in the present because it still does not have enough cognitive skills and do not govern impulse control that would help them to think in advance. Because of this, it can not promise you anything, whatever the prize. Moreover, bribing children is surely a sword with two blades. Children are very clever and should therefore never underestimate. Very soon will begin to seek greater rewards as they grew up, or refuse to do anything if they are not waiting at the end of any prize.Also, if you are constantly giving rewards for good behavior and then one day you're given, your child may give up or stop trying. In most cases, it is best to give your child fancied pleasure of praise for his efforts.Sometimes you have to be able to offer a small reward as a natural consequence of the child 's cooperation.And psychologists agree that the education of effective occasionally rewarding, and it focused on effort rather than on achievement. This way your child will learn to strive for success because it will be truly motivated. Imposing praise Everyone loves praise after a job well done, even children. It is quite natural that the blossoming of luck for every little thing that your child do - everything is sweet, fun and learning new things everyday. How to put off that he does not say how wise? But just like with the reward, should be careful when praising. Spontaneous reaction surprises will not hurt anyone, but if you praise every movement of your child, you can fall into the trap of excessive expectations. Specifically, this much praise can create the feeling of a child that you love him only when something works well and can start to be afraid of failure. In this way, can become dependent on the opinions of other people are too scared to have tried new things. positive praise Instead of constantly repeating "How nice drawing!" making sure that the child make a real compliment as "How did you use beautiful color". The same principle should be applied in all fields and to say very specific things like: "Congratulations you have been quiet while I'm talking phone", "See how can I wear that jacket!", "Way to go, remember that you can close the door "Consequently, this show honors the child to appreciate his effort and it does not send the empty words of praise which generally do not have to believe. In addition, the children in this way begins to believe in yourself and your abilities. Another important thing is that we should not ignore the moments when the child is "good." If you pay attention to all sorts of errors, do not forget to "compensate" praise appropriate behavior.
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