Jealousy in children

Within the family, there are significant differences between the first-born child and drugorođenog - from sex differences in age, character individuality, the general physical and mental health, as well as various life situations in which the parents were at the time of the rising first, and later a second child. All of these factors can, in certain periods of life and the development of both the child reflect on certain beliefs and attitudes - both the children and their parents, and the surrounding environment. The most common is the older sibling of the child than the younger, but not uncommon situation to be reversed, or that jealousy is mutual.

Jealousy and how to solve

Many parents are afraid of jealousy firstborn child, to realize at some point in the child's second child jealously.

Adequate response, dealing with children and the aforementioned good organization, can overcome these problems. Parents should make an effort to both children of them receive the same attention and an equal amount of time spent together - when dealing with specific activities appropriate for their age.

Situations in which you may find when you have two children of different ages:

Situation 1:

The younger the child, although the opposite sex, often covet the same things over - whether it's the clothes, toys, shoes, or something related to school activities. You do not want to stay home, but to join the company of older children. Insists to go out with them, to play together, or to spend time with them when they come to visit. Often, no explanations can not stop crying and mališanov applications. Then the parents are trying to persuade an older child to give in, "Please, let it be with you only a little, not crying After all, you're older / a, you can easily understand ...".

If parents do not allow children under the age interfering older, but it suggests that something else is interested, it can become very irritable, restless, even said: "Nobody loves me!" In the event that such a situation recurring, a younger child may enter into frequent verbal and physical conflict with the older child. Or to retreat and inconsolable crying.

Situation 2:

An older child may come into a situation where there is no freedom to socialize with their peers, because they "must always be careful," the younger brother or sister. Children usually comment like: "I do not know the game, so we spoil everything!"

Unfortunately, if this situation persist, the older child begins to avoid socializing with peers. Also, can live in the belief that he loved the child, but not to tell her parents. It becomes jealous, whining, oversensitive, often refusing parental orders, and the younger child comes in a variety of verbal and physical conflicts.

The reaction of parents

Sometimes parents think that it's only a short stage in the development of their children, that they will pass ... so I do not pay much attention.

Some believe that the older the child, because he can no longer understand, should accept such a role, and those views are relentlessly adhere to, which can cause many problems.

Imitation is positive

Children usually learn imitative motivated curiosity and exploring what happens when you repeat a pleasant or unpleasant behavior of adults. How older and younger children imitating each other, their parents and their environment. At a young age, imitation is the means to achieve the effect, and during further development can be used to check the emotions of each member of the family group, in order to later developmental period is adopted as the opinion or belief.

Some parents think it is essential that children in these situations are separated and strictly pay attention to each other, do not bother.

A number of parents did not try to intervene in such situations, but allows children to solve. Then often leads to child crying rant, heated arguments, and covered with short periods of calmer.

The reaction environment

It is important to know that in addition to the parents, and others from the environment: such as grandparents, other relatives, neighbors, friends, teachers can play a decisive role in the messages that suggest - because they remember, crossing into the subconscious and are retained lifetime.

Conversation - The Key to Success

A parent can sit next to a three-year child (or take it on your lap), and to act in the same manner and with the older child, and telling them how much they loved, how much he cares about them, that he liked as smart , beautiful, valuable ...

The potential of these youngsters will surely come to light. They will try to justify the parents' and show yourself in the best light. Children will want to show what they can do best, positively will accept any verbal message in the order form.

From the moment you take the time to talk to children, parents approach requires good organization and free consultation. The only way children learn and acquire many habits of behavior.

Parents Code of Conduct

Here are a few rules that parents should adopt:

- You need to make a list of interesting content and timing of their implementation, for both children.

- Trying to keep the mood is positive, there is a lot of talk and laughter.

- Make an effort to get children not exposed to excessive noise, they do not become too sensitive.

- Not at all, be punished children. But if there is a need for it, then you should not be drastic, and should not yell. Children of three or four years are too small to understand the punishment. They need to explain why they were punished. Sentence may not last long, because in this case the children feel rejected. After the sentencing, is gradually creating an atmosphere of good cheer.

- Do not be afraid of kids with something that does not exist - if it does not do what you wanted. You do not need to tell them that there will not be loved or to be paid if someone does not make a specific account.Children must not create the fear of losing a parent.

- Teach your children's emotions and feelings. When you are angry, tell and explain to the children the best way they know how - why are you angry and why.

- Gestures (if a little child) show your feelings. From time to time, ask your child how to be angry, laughing, crying ...

- From time to time leave the door open nursery. Tell the child that you are there if you need it by accident.

- If children are restless or irritable, overly tired or express disapproval regarding sleep, give them a favorite toy and tell something nice - until you are sure you have calmed down.

- Sometimes a parent to a child of primary school organizes a number of activities, meetings, visits to the cinema, theater ... while others, younger children need to organize different activities.