When children do not listen ...

Parents are often faced with a child "no" or "I". Many children do not even pronounce the word, but simply ignore what the parent says. It can be very cute when they were still quite small but can become a problem when rearing small increase.

True, it is positive when children can identify what they want and what is not, and to respond, but "I" can be used to start and when it is not desirable. Here's how parents can respond to rejection or ignoring of the children.

- Be clear and consistent in your expectations. Communicate clearly, get the attention of a child and always, when you talk, watch a child in his eyes.

- Think about how you communicate with your child or partner. If the parents often answer "no" or "I" is very likely to adopt a child and such a mode of communication. Do not expect the child is not what you expect of yourself, because children are always watching us and emulate.

- Try to express their demands in other words. Consider some common phrases that regularly get the answer "I will not." Instead, "We go into the bath, it's time for swimming," try asking, "Would you like to go swimming now or after the cartoons?"

- Be patient. Let your child know that you are on his side. Try not to be rushed and that they often get angry at the refusal.

- Set realistic goals. Children aged four or five years should be established borders, so they feel protected and safe. We also have the right to say "no" if you think that something really can not do. Think about their age and what they are physically, mentally and emotionally capable.

- Have the rules is fine, but do not have them too. Talk with your child and explain the basic rules of behavior at home and in your relationship. Explain the consequences.

- Reward good behavior. It may not be tangible rewards, you can play with your child, read his favorite story or just a hug.

Be positive. Imagine a video camera that follows you all day. If we view the clip, as they counted as positive and negative comments that you have placed your child?

- A child sometimes needs a space for reflection. This is not punishment, simply move away to another room (which feel comfortable) to reflect on his behavior, but only after explaining to him why you are doing. Sometimes you can send yourself to time out.

- Encourage and empower children. Give him a chance to reach its decisions by given a choice whenever possible. Sometimes the pace is too fast for our children, and slow down whenever you can.

- Choose your battles. You can not just impact on every aspect of life of the child, and do not need. In some situations, you simply need to give your child space, such as for example the choice of clothing.

- Always try to avoid situations that will cause problems (where possible), but if you find yourself in this situation, you can also use the method of distraction. Sometimes it is better to focus the child to something other than get into a situation that will cause additional stress for both.

Finally, be patient and consistent with its approach. Remember that your child is a little person who grows and develops in an individual with his attitude. Discipline of course sometimes we have to impose, but it does not mean that we need to completely control the child. In contrast, my kids need to learn how to control himself.