Why does my child does not have friends?

The child already at the age of 6 months is beginning to show interest in other children and have contact with them watching, cooing, smiješenjem, touching. However, in this age peer contacts are rare, simple and short. Between two and five years to expand relationships with peers, and for most children, peers become a social system is second in importance, behind the family. 

The first friendship began to develop after the third year through accidental or intentional interaction, children learn how to socialize with others.

In this respect, they learn that it is important to have friends and be friends, how to solve problems, to be put in the position of others, on values, moral judgments, sex roles, imitation of adult ... With his friends, they feel safer, and this relationship helps them build self-image as a desirable person in society. And then what happens with children who have no friends?

Take, for example girl Lara, 6 years. Larry is a daily childcare big problem. It did not fit, no friends, no play with anyone, other children are not invited to her birthday. While it is good and decent kid, she is constantly in the shade. Often given in kindergarten performed on the sidelines, watching other children playing, wanting to get involved in their game, but does not know how. Today, Lara does not want to go to kindergarten, and not looking forward to it alone.

Play therapy can help children who have no friends so they can help you become more confident, to develop a better image of themselves and their experience of the environment. How? Let's look at how to play therapy could take place in Lara's case.

In a room designed for play therapy, Lara chooses to play with dolls' house. She took the family figures and put them to sleep. When it was "morning," Lara is every doll made in one end of the house: Dad is watching television, my mother cooked, my sister was playing in his room, and Lara with kittens in the other room. Since Lara paused in their game, the therapist took the two girls figure with the intention of acting Lara's age. Lara has accepted Therapist in addition to the game, as well as a call girl that Lara plays with them. Soon, Lara has proposed (the therapist's question, "What could be playing") playing hide and seek.

Lara's figure consisted of girls, therapist, "girls" were hiding. When it was found Lara's figure, "girls" have charged that the file (it's also Lara's instructions therapist how girls react when they find). For Lara and her figure, it was too much, so she decided that she had a lot of games and to go home now. From Larinih words and games can be concluded that a low opinion of themselves, to be quickly withdrawn and that in itself is not known to stand up for themselves.

Following therapy, the therapist suggested that Larry seems to show her playground. The court agreed to Lara, the figurines placed the other children at one end of the courses themselves and the other end of the court. The therapist asked Lara Do any "child" in this field that could be played with Lara. Lara said that she would be a "girl" because he played good, but not when others are close to her friends because she (Lara) is not "cool" to play.

With encouragement Therapist (this session took place would be when a child therapist and got acquainted with the confidence it), Lara has practiced joining other "children" asking them "in order to play with me?". The therapist responded to the figures of peers, as is Lara said that the real answer, that answer was "no, I do not want to play with you today." Since it is obvious that Lara was not in the game can not imagine that anyone would play with her, the therapist suggested that it is possible that someone is playing with Lara tomorrow. She said that this is possible and so began her journey to accept that she preferred to play, finding a child who is estimated to be played with it and finally enjoy the friendship.

All information about play therapy you can find out whether you call Tatiana at 095 804 3982 or write to her at tatjana@centarproventus.hr mail and by visiting the website of the Center Proventus.

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Why my child is lying?

Children's lies are usually insignificant, but it does not mean that parents should not react to them. If you just ignore the child's little lies, it can get in the habit of lying. Young children do not even know they are lying, all the while to warn parents not to, because they are too small to distinguish reality from their fantasy world.

Children do not lie with bad intentions, they have a vivid imagination, stories which are considered to be true. Parents play an important role to explain the difference between fantasy and reality. Children often make up stories that would like to see them happen.They usually lie on the ground that attract attention, to get some benefit, in order to avoid punishment, or better display is impressed environment. The child needs to instill a sense of right and wrong, because in this way have the strength to face difficult situations in life.

Children who are trying to show braver, no confidence, and their parents need to develop self-confidence. The most common lie abused and neglected children, mainly because of fear of punishment or to create a picture of yourself more beautiful world around them and get attention for that long for and what they have.

Parents who are too strict in his upbringing, should not be surprised that their children often use lies, because they are simply afraid to disappoint their parents and avoid a possible penalty.

Parents should make sure that the front of the children do not serve the lies, because when a child sees that the parent is lying it concludes that it is right.

If you notice that your child is lying, to discover the cause of such behavior. If you catch him in lies, the child should not be blamed, and threatened him, but in a nice way to talk with your child and encourage him to be honest. Together with your child to set rules of conduct and these rules are kept. If we are sometimes a nice lie, not to show the child, because he thus encouraged to continue to serve the lies. Lies of the child should be accepted as part of growing up, they need to explain that lies are not acceptable, and the sincerity of a child should be rewarded.

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