Award for children

"If you yourself to get the nose you'll get chocolate"

 "Thank you arranged room. Now we in the park. "
 "I will buy you a balloon if you promise to be nice to the doctor"

What is the difference between bribes and rewards? Bribery involves the offer of something precious child to lead him to do what you tell him (the first and third examples are bribery). Award (second example) is something that happens after performing the task. Did essential, as long as your child cooperate? Depends on what you want him to learn. Do you want a child who will be willing to do things only when it is at least something to draw? Child that every time you need something to do first is to ask "what do I get it?" Either you like to teach him to cooperate or when workin be satisfied with the job? That work comes before play?That is fair to take into account the needs of other people? Do you like his parents happy when you help and therefore have more time and energy to it? Of course, some of these things that it can not understand at this age but it is important to establish rules and establish a family culture and education to the true values. For education is most effective at times focused on rewarding effort. In this way, you learn that your child weighs success because it truly motivate. Anyone of us in a hurry, or the desire to motivate a child can take bribing or rewarding, but caution in the way we transfer our personal beliefs and methods are still worth it. It is quite understandable that say "you I willl read it once when you dressed pajamas" or "When the toys are in the place we go to the park" but bribery and especially material rewards every time they want to cooperate may cost us dearly. Returning to the example above, offering chocolate can cause an immediate response to wear running but your child will also learn how to really use the potty. And gratuitous balloon before leaving the doctor will not motivate a child to hold promise, but since when has the prize in his hands why should they? Children of this age living in the present because it still does not have enough cognitive skills and do not govern impulse control that would help them to think in advance. Because of this, it can not promise you anything, whatever the prize.  Moreover, bribing children is surely a sword with two blades. Children are very clever and should therefore never underestimate. Very soon will begin to seek greater rewards as they grew up, or refuse to do anything if they are not waiting at the end of any prize.Also, if you are constantly giving rewards for good behavior and then one day you're given, your child may give up or stop trying. In most cases, it is best to give your child fancied pleasure of praise for his efforts.Sometimes you have to be able to offer a small reward as a natural consequence of the child 's cooperation.And psychologists agree that the education of effective occasionally rewarding, and it focused on effort rather than on achievement. This way your child will learn to strive for success because it will be truly motivated. Imposing praise Everyone loves praise after a job well done, even children. It is quite natural that the blossoming of luck for every little thing that your child do - everything is sweet, fun and learning new things everyday. How to put off that he does not say how wise? But just like with the reward, should be careful when praising. Spontaneous reaction surprises will not hurt anyone, but if you praise every movement of your child, you can fall into the trap of excessive expectations. Specifically, this much praise can create the feeling of a child that you love him only when something works well and can start to be afraid of failure. In this way, can become dependent on the opinions of other people are too scared to have tried new things. positive praise Instead of constantly repeating "How nice drawing!" making sure that the child make a real compliment as "How did you use beautiful color". The same principle should be applied in all fields and to say very specific things like: "Congratulations you have been quiet while I'm talking phone", "See how can I wear that jacket!", "Way to go, remember that you can close the door "Consequently, this show honors the child to appreciate his effort and it does not send the empty words of praise which generally do not have to believe. In addition, the children in this way begins to believe in yourself and your abilities. Another important thing is that we should not ignore the moments when the child is "good." If you pay attention to all sorts of errors, do not forget to "compensate" praise appropriate behavior.

Misconceptions about parenting

If you feel that every decision you make as a parent than that to allow children to eat sweets before their bribe to go to sleep, there's a halo of guilt, relax, and probably be falling under the influence of misconceptions about parenting. Fear of parental responsibility is the most common reason for accepting the most common misconceptions about parenting, assures us that behavioral psychologists. We want to do what is good for children, but we fear or feelings of guilt sometimes lead to the fact that we doubt their decision.

Before you go to any extreme, whether you decide to officially or unofficially compete for the "Parent of the Year" or the despair of their parenting skills, become familiar with the most common misconceptions about parenting that have plagued many parents and before you. 1.Parents always must be calm and control their feelings Regardless of how much you are patient and calm person, sooner or later you will find yourself in a situation that is simply no longer have the nerve and explode. It is important to accept that this is not the end of the world, the truth is that most of the attention and love should have the family and the stress of the job does not need to bring home, but more important is how you act upon it. As soon calm down, take a deep breath, hug your kids and excuse them. It's okay that children see that even mom sometimes erroneous, until you show them that you are really a mistake and that it is not acceptable behavior. 2. Buy bad Bribery is itself a word with a negative meaning, but good news for moms to sometimes just fine to use candy or some other type of reward for achieving goals in the students' habits. For example, it is quite wrong to reward a child because he has learned to use his nose. Just be careful not to fall into the trap that every thing that kids do not give rise to an award because the desired behavior in this case disappear soon disappear awards. 3. Never not bother to argue in front of children fighting is healthy and inevitable part of the relationship between two people who love you. As long as the fighting is not such that physical or emotional harm to one partner, or relating to the upbringing of the child is necessary to protect a child from every little disagreement with your partner. It is important that your children see that you and your partner to solve disagreements and discussions ending so you've found a common solution.Children will also understand that mommy and daddy love although not always agree in everything, and learns an important life lesson about resolving conflicts between people. 4.When a parent no longer have time for yourself No matter how much you love to be a mom and how you fulfill this role and in addition to all the obligations of motherhood does not have to be a waiver. As long as you are our children have food, water, a comfortable home, safety and love, it's okay to tackle and things that are not directly related to parenting, whether it was a hobby, going to the theater or coffee with companions. Finding time for these activities, and will fulfill some of the other aspects of your life, and your children will be able to enjoy what makes them happiest, and it is happy and satisfied mom. 5. All children should be treated the same way every child's story for themselves and different little person. As much as I try to be the same to every child, children need access to a variety of ways, it's just that you are fair to everyone. It is quite normal that the oldest child given certain privileges, for example, the ability to stay outside longer, or that the youngest child first assist in a task, as long as you provide them with an explanation why you are who acted. Rivalry among children is quite expected behavior and should not suppress it at all costs, but you learn to avoid the behavior that leads to rivalry. Remember that your job as a parent is not to be perfect, just good enough parent. Certainly there is no such approach to parenting that will convince you that you are always right and never have no feeling of guilt, but hopefully we rebutting these blunders contributed to your greater self-confidence as moms and dads. 

Teach children to love nature

Each generation is responsible for transferring the lessons about the future of the world and the preservation of the planet next generation. As parents, we all need to do the environment, and thus the world, healthier and nicer place for themselves and their children. Therefore, there is no better gift for a child than to create awareness of how nature is important for all of us and the knowledge that it too can affect the preservation of a healthy environment.

It's never too early for the first lesson on ecology if you want children to learn to be "green" and care about the world in which they live as adults. Things are acting like little things can significantly affect the adoption of attitude the whole family. Here's how good models of behavior that can be adopted and deliberately, without any special effort and planning. Model 1: reduce all children, especially the youngest, enjoy swimming and personalized favorite can play in the water for hours, until their fingers on the skin shrivels .Resist the desire to extend the swimming refilling trays because your toddler is not enough, and explain to him that one full when sufficient water consumption. Tell him that everyone needs to keep the water and do not squander it be to all people on the planet could have been used. Even though your toddler can not even up close to understand the lesson of the importance of water conservation, such behavior put seeds of understanding for later period when a child can adopt this lesson. Model 2: make material completely before disposing of them Does your child cast list paper is spoiled when only one side, and immediately takes new?Show him that there is a clear space in which he can draw and write as much as you like, immediately on the other side! So simple discovery can help the child to understand how important it is to reduce waste and make full use of raw materials that are available to us. Model 3: recycle. Recycling waste from the house still has not quite come to life in our country, mind, and because there are not enough containers separating materials for recycling. However, in anticipation of the circumstances in which the recycling become every day, teach a child to different groups of materials which can be recycled and used again. Explain to the child how materials such as paper, plastic, glass and aluminum can be recycled, thus saving natural resources. Model 4: environmental education take the opportunity when you are walking through the woods, whether it's the park between the buildings, the national park or hiking the right to explain the child why it is important to care about the planet and try to parks and forests remain preserved in them can be enjoyed for a long time. On a visit to the zoo or when reading a book about dinosaurs explaining what endangered animal and plant species, and that is to the point that some of them become extinct.Environmental education does not have to be specifically designed exclusively while in nature or with animals, but important lessons about the preservation of the natural environment, resources, flora and fauna that can deploy in everyday family conversations.  Make sure that in your place there is a program dedicated to educating and increasing ecological awareness adjusted children. Include your child in any of the youth or children 'associations or groups engaged in restoring the company, such as "Boy Scout" movement or "green", the child will enjoy socializing with their peers and simultaneously acquire important skills and habits.  Kids today and mass media such as television or the Internet can find content focused on awareness of the needs of our planet and recycling, but it is important that this message get to and from home, they can follow the example of their parents and older siblings. Make sure you play your part in educating generations of high environmental consciousness - turn off the light when you leave the room, pack food in a box that is used many times instead of shrinking disposable and not only when you see the children, but as the habit of which everyone will benefit. 

Children need love

Although you mean that their children love most in the world, they do not have to be any obvious or clear. She assumed, presumed, are hoping that this is so, but their understanding of the world and the values ​​that have yet to adopt are different than you, as an adult.

 One definition of parenting is to enable children roots and wings. Koren is a metaphor for feeling stronghold, the place where the child is always returned because feels welcome just the way it is, while the wings are a symbol of parental inevitability that your child is released to the outside world (outside the family environment) freely and independently investigated, make their own decisions, wins and loses ... ie: flying. However, your child may not have their footing and root in your home if it is not safe in your love. Absorbent experience their environment their world full of colors, images and associations builds gradually, but it is necessary to have a clear confirmation of what we think or assume . How? Think for a moment, on what basis would your child may know that you love? Have you told him or showed a sufficiently direct, open, unambiguous manner? Specifically, when the child 's drawing praise or say, "You're a good mom boy" or "I'm so proud of you as you are ..." encourage you positive, supportive message and expressed their satisfaction with some of his behavior. However, in this way did not say that you love him. It is necessary to show your love to be directly, openly, clearly. Say, "I do an awful lot like" or "I love you the most in the world" (or think of your personal, social comparison), because its only in this way say something that leaves no doubt or questioning what you mean when you say it. Nonverbal means showing love hugs, kisses, "push" while reading a story or play, seek opportunities to be together anymore ... In addition, we now know that an open display of love affects not only the children 'self-confidence and the positive development of family values, but also on degree of intelligence. Specifically, in families with multiple children, are often the most successful and have a higher intelligence quotient precisely, first-born children. This, however, does not mean that parents prefer their firstborn. On the contrary, they all love their child but equally it shows differently, manifested. That is, after the firstborn, like parental attention, expectations and ambitions drops. learning. On the other hand, showing love is something that many parents have yet to learn. It is often the case that they themselves grew up without this form of parental support. "Heavy" to display their own emotions are especially dads, because in their childhood were victims of prejudice to the famous "boys never cry," that tears are only for the weak ... That is, they used to hide their emotions and repressed. It is therefore important that for the first few days of your children begin learning shows and open expression of love that you feel. You will need time to master this skill, because you might have several decades of experience in suppressing even positive personal feelings.Prejudice. Do not hold back in speaking or showing nicest possible feelings. You can not preterati. View that excessive love of children can spoil is prejudice that needs to forget as soon as possible. Show the child that he is loved not the same as spoiling it. It is understood that the spoiled children also loved children, but she did not become such as have been sure to love their mom and dad, but as a result of certain parental attitude is exemplary current pediatric population. Rather than see their child in its current stage of development retain behavior as though it were younger than he. They have no limits permitted and illicit behavior, their authority is very weak, and their children, allowing almost everything, without a clear idea of what their child at that age should know. nutshell, love can not be too, too, can not be exaggerated. On the contrary, najznačajnjije what he can provide is the belief that you love most in the world. Only then will it be able to grow confident in yourself and your family. Unreserved feeling of parental love makes children confident. Thanks to this, the easier it concluded friendships, optimistic, freer, more open, curious.Challenge themselves because they know they have a "place to return" if erroneous. Finally, this feeling of roots is essential for a successful flight, when it comes time to root unless your child and let the wings. wrote the lyrics 

What is funny to children?

Humor beautify the life of every family - the baby will a great time having her mouth crackling across his stomach, three-year child will be delighted when you put a funny hat and chasing with him around the table, a child who went to school is a great "cool" When you pretend that you shot and fall into a pile of leaves.Teens will be shared with you, but jokes that are becoming more and more sophisticated smisaonije as a child grows. Laughter is a great way to connect with children, and will be a good sense of humor help you be smarter, healthier, and better deal with the challenges. Although it is commonly believed that a sense of humor, qualities which, like eye color, are inherited from the parents, it is in fact learned and developed.

Humor is, in fact, what one thing seems funny, sense of humor and the ability to recognize it. A person with strong sense of humor, knows how to recognize it funny and ridiculous traits in others, but also to entertain other people. Deca must not be an average of 200 times a day, and adults only 15 to 18 times a day. The fact that you have a child gives you a chance to catch up with the huge lack of humor in life! Sense of humor is a great tool that can help children in many cases: to see things from a different perspective, not just what's obvious to be spontaneous to understand unconventional ideas or ways rzmišljanja to see beyond what is on the surface to enjoy and participate in all the fun apektim life that do not understand themselves too seriously Children with well-developed sense of humor are happier and more optimistic, have higher levels of self-confidence and know how to come out to deal with disagreements (when she does not agree with others, or someone else does not agree with them). Children who understand the humor and participate in it peers over price and are better able to cope with peer disputes - whether because of moving to another city, a taunting, or children who terrorize others in the playground. Besides, a good sense of humor not only helps children the emotional and social development, but it turned out that people who laugh more are healthier, they are less susceptible to depression and even have a pronounced resistance to disease or physical problems. These individuals are subject to a lower level of stress and have a slower heart rate, pulse and blood pressure, and digestion of them is better. Laughter can even help people better tolerate pain, while studies have shown that improves immune function of the body. But before all that, a sense of humor makes life fun, and there is little pleasures in life that can be compared with laughing to tears with your little ones. What's children funny? children can begin to develop a sense of humor is very early, but what what fun baby certainly is not fun teenager. To help your child to enjoy the humor in every stage of development, it is important to know what will most likely have fun in any stage. Bebe and humor Babies can not understand what is humor, but we know very well that you are happy when you see that ye laugh .Laughter is good for the heart - it has been proven that laughter increases blood flow by over 20 percent and that the benefits of laughter last even for 45 minutes. When you make funny sounds or facial expressions, your baby will probably feel the joy and your imitiraće you. He or she is also very price and react to physical stimuli, such as tickling or crackling mouth of the baby's skin. In the period between 9 and 15 months, babies already know enough about the world and understand that when mom quacks like a duck and put a diaper on his head doing something unexpected - and it's funny. Deca from 1 to 3 The humor andChildren at this age price of physical humor, especially the kind of humor that includes the element of surprise (such as a game in which hides and reveals the face or sudden tickling). How to develop language skills, rhymes or words that have no meaning will be very funny, it may take up to preschoolers. Precisely at this time, children often begin with attempts to zasmeju parents. A child may deliberately to show the wrong part of the face when you ask him, "Where's your nose?" Or that the volume of your shoes to keep pounding at home. preschool children and humor Dete preschoolers will probably pre see something funny in the picture where something is order (for example a car with checkered wheels or pig wearing glasses for the sun), but as a joke or trick. incompatibility between the picture and sound quality is also ridiculous in this age group (for example, a horse that says "Moo"). How are becoming more aware of body function and what annoys parents, children were increasingly starting to enjoy the so-called "humor from the bathroom" (tied for peeing, kakenje etc.). schoolboy humor How do the children go to kindergarten and beyond, the basic game words, distortion and exaggeration and making outrageous comedy becoming more interesting. then will probably discover the simple pleasure of telling a joke, and the same will recount a hundred times.Older pupils better understand the meaning of words and are willing to play with them, appreciated them puzzles, anagrams and other types of games with words. At this age children begin to ridicule any difference from what they imply as normal, whether it be on the conduct or dress, and excessive body function jokes are an absolute hit. However, children of this age and develop more refined understanding of humor, including ability too to use wit, sarcasm and irony to solve conflict situations by using humor. Basis of humor There is no time when it is too early to počenete to develop a sense of humor in children. Smile and laugh baby is so enchanting that it is often intuitive and encourage - smešeći is, golicajući them all day just to get them zasmejali. important thing is to continue encouraging as child grows. When you are playing with the child and cherish together humor, enjoying the clowning and laughter, helping the child to develop a playful and humorous attitude to life. A of the best ways to do this from a young age is that every day you are open to all possibilities for laughter that you provide your child. Be spontaneous mood for the game and aware of what your child amused at what age. Likewise, be chum and smejte the kid 'jokes, do not let it feels that his joke failed. What else can you do to encourage the development of their child wit? Be a model of wit. One of the best ways to develop a child's sense of humor that you develop and use your sense of humor. You're making a joke, talk funny and amusing stories, smejte out loud and not get excited about small domestic disasters like spilled milk. On the contrary, try to humor you hover over these problems.Understand Children's humor seriously. Encourage each child attempts to be funny, Whether you read jokes from a book (even when they are not overly funny) or to draw "funny" drawings of your dog. Praise your child for fostering humor and be prepared for surprises - the first situation is when you are a child laugh is one of the greatest pleasures in life. Teach children that adults funny and that she could be. kidding during everyday situations with children and encourage them to share with you funny stories or reactions, even when there are other adults. Create an environment rich in humor. Surround children comical books - for children under 3 years old and preschoolers are usually books with rhymes and silly stories, and older kids love funny comics and books with jokes. Find and TV programs, movies, or on the internet with comical stories and help children to choose the content to which they will enjoy. Where to draw the lineYou do not want spoiling children 's entertainment, but children are the delivery of jokes and enjoying the humor necessary boundaries, as in some other areas. certainly do not want to encourage or inappropriate Prices jokes, so be especially good role model and you do not use humor in this way. If someone tells a joke that violates another person or is not appropriate, do not you also love the child, but to explain why the joke and a way of using humor are not funny and they are not wrong . Think about that slightly discouraged korišećenja so. "humor from the bathroom," or at least not to participate in it with enthusiasm. It is true that this VSTA humor will not hurt anyone but try to help the children to understand in which situations is fine joke on So (at home, with family, or playing with mates), and where such jokes are not appropriate (in the classroom, in an official place). Families who laughs Be family to laugh and enjoy humor together. Surely you already noted that it is always more ye laugh in society than when you're alone. For this reason it is important to spend time together, share an jokes to each other, watching comedies, adding, and tickle. Not only will you enjoy the time but years later when the children be prisećala silliness from childhood.

Children and reading

When the book is (not) likes: Originally pediatric pleasure of socializing with books rise to school, turns, mostly in the technique of learning materials in the course of growing up going to one more than an oddity, that most children who are not in school likes books and is particularly keen to recognize them even by a letter, while in older age groups, particularly in adolescence, this love is slowly starting to disappear, and turns even, in resentment toward literature, especially that of a mandatory, textbook.

What kind of phenomenon in question and why it happens, we should think anyone who in any way participate in the raising and education of the young generation. Seen from the perspective of a psychologist, you can make a small contribution to it in terms of discovering some reasons and giving some suggestions for their solution. 
meet first child with the book is more than reading. Modern first book for children, in fact babies really are awesome. They are made ​​of various materials (textiles, non-toxic plastic coated cardboard, etc.) and with them is really fun to play. May be placed in the mouth, wrinkle, some of them even soak in the bath ... A special pleasure aggravates them "read" because during the act of a child sitting in a parent's lap (or very close to it) in order to better be able to monitor what his mom or dad explained. Practically, while reading books at an early age realized closest contact between parent and child, which provides far more emotional and tactile exchange of, say, stacking cubes, fitting puzzle, or drawing. Because there is such a pleasant experience, the child has a need to repeat the activity of reading a book, we made ​​a mother or father and asks that he be given by reading. Time and the content of the book becomes more raumljiv child and therefore interesting, and over one realizes satisfaction and other - love for the text to be read. 
And what happens after that age? 
Parents are beginning to replace CD player through which a child can only listen to a recorded story or fairy tale, and, possibly, at the same time looking at the text in the appropriate book. Later, when the child master the technique of reading, parents show great joy that a child does not have to read the book because it is now able to work itself. And so, little by little, the parents and the children stop to exchange the contents by reading books, and warm emotions. Books are gradually becoming 'child' thing 'and when the school and almost every book becomes udžbenikiz which must be learned for the assessment - that the end of the beginning of a love of reading ... So what's the solution? 
science and technology inevitably thrive and bring many benefits to parents, but it's bad if you replace them completely. So, continue reading books to their children "live" even when you have audio and video clips to their favorite fairy tales, and even when your children already know how to read largely alone. It can be a ritual before sedation, after which take the opportunity to talk with them about what they have read, but that they must assist and kiss goodnight. 
Originally pediatric pleasure of socializing with books rise to school, turns, mostly, the technique of learning materials. It's not bad because it increases knowledge, but it is not good that the material is often very extensive and it takes some time to master, so after learning the child wants to do anything, but not to re-take a hand book and read for "your soul." Also, the school system, to a considerable extent determines what the child needs to read, and when a child experiences as an obligation and compulsion, the satisfaction of such activity is reduced. In these cases, you might prefer to consider the following: 
If the matter is required to be taught in school children presented through other means of education: movies, visit museums, educational CD's ... and not just through textbooks. 
perusal To divide the number of books that fall into the regular program, and the remaining books that students can read by choice. 

Modern parenting

Grandmothers, blankets, uncles, aunts and other family members are not adequate replacement in parenting because they are too lenient. The maturation of children and shaping the character that will reflect their personality in adulthood, parents play a crucial role. For good physical and mental development of the child are important both parents emphasize childrens psychiatrists. In this relationship, the mother, especially, should give tenderness, support and understanding, which will be of great importance in adulthood when they establish different relationships with others, especially the partnership.

The father, on the other hand, is a model of perceiving reality. Of course, these divisions are not strict, but families today are often not able to respond to these demands, because either not complete, or has a difficult economic situation, which is focused on earning a living. In fact, more and more single mothers and fathers on the edge of existence.
traditional families practically disappear, and bring forth some new forms of family behavior. In such a milieu of family children are, unfortunately, more and more faced with volatile and unpredictable circumstances in which parents can not give them everything they need. Not only economically, but also psychologically, it carries far-reaching consequences that brings a lack of love, attention, understanding, patience, honesty, consistency.
circumstances was very busy in the parent members would grandmothers, blankets, uncles, uncles, aunts ...However, experts warn that they are not adequate substitutes for parental leave. Trying to make up for what their children are missing, often exaggerate the leniency. A satisfying their every whim can lead to serious problems. With the indulgence children begin to exhibit unrealistic needs and requirements, as well as the belief that every problem can be solved with the help of the other and with full support.
Given that such behavior is not possible in later adulthood, parents and all those who care about the child should educate ga to know why they were rewarded, which is why he is disadvantaged. Under the awards in any case does not mean the money, nor the punishment beatings. A parent who is mature, responsible, one person was relatively pleased with the personal, professional and intimate relationships, it can create a good milieu for growing children. Success is a parent who is not perfect, but has the ability to recognize mistakes, trying to think about them, aware of the time in which he lives, constraints and opportunities. Such a person needs solving in order of urgency and importance, not forgetting what is for their child at any given time most. A good parent is one who respects the personality of the child, who is aware of his strengths and weaknesses, who knows how to ga Encourage and praise whenever there is a reason for it. Think, too, and the ways in which the child indicates an error. It is also important to distinguish which of the activities of the child is necessary and appropriate to his age, which represent their unfulfilled ambitions, experts say the parents. Dedicated VIOLENCE Children from families who maintain at least part of the customs, family rituals and festivities as adults have a stronger sense of belonging to their own family. Being devoted as parents and members of the business team better. 's why, instead of verbal advice in certain situations, and verify that the message point by its example. Also, do not Solve problems of their child, but to streamline ga just find the solution. Help your child to stature in a responsible, mature, secure, independent and a content person. MANE MODERN PARENTING The original human community have raised more children than they are today, in the 21st century, says prof. Dr. Narvaez Darsija from the American University of Notre Dame in Indiana. Modern methods of parenting that involve leaving babies to cry, holding long staff and sedeljkama in the car, and less opportunity for children to walk freely and reside outside of the home, creating a new generation of dysfunctional. "warm and always available to soothe worries childrens brain, which is necessary for the formation of personality and exploring the world. Our research shows that the foundation had formed early in childhood, but modern parenting increasingly denies the fundamentals that lead to feel satisfaction and creating a true moral code, "says Dr. Narvaez. Studies show that children who spend time in isolation and out of games, have more opportunities to develop hyperactivity and other health disorders. To the fore particularly mental instability, egocentrism, insensitiveness. 

First Aid for Children

Accidents to children does not usually occur in traffic rather than at home or outside, in the game. Fortunately, parents are usually nearby, but it would be useful to know how to help the little ones. 
 less when it comes to injuries, before taking concrete steps, try to calm the child and the Utes to make sure that it is not just and forgotten to fear. The most important thing is to be calm, not to panic and to import the small "wounded."

Here's what you should do in certain situations. asthma attack - when they run out of air  under the influence of certain stimuli (stress, sudden changes of weather, chemicals, tobacco odor, dust mites) bronchi constrict and come up with an asthma attack. Difficult child breathe the air, as evidenced by a characteristic whistling. Here's what you can do: give the child to start spray asthma that his doctor prescribed for an emergency, and then you set it to sit with her ​​legs spread, the elbows or forearms leaning on the thigh. In this way, the body will automatically bend slightly forward, making it easier to breathe. If he gets better for a few minutes, call an ambulance. bite animals - small injuries, a high risk  bites are dangerous, regardless of whether they originate from a cat, dog or mouse, because in this way transmitted rabies. In addition, following a wound can be turned on. It is therefore very important to take your toddler immediately see a doctor who will tell you whether you should ga vaccinated against rabies.  yourself what can you do? Wash the wound under the tap and disinfect it. Suffocation - when food slips into the tracheachoking often occurs when food gets into the windpipe and shut it partially or completely. For children aged about one year it happens sometimes when you switch to solid foods, but are not spared either older children with a choking, among other things, can cause grain peanut, small toys and bites in the oral cavity. patted the child five times in a row back. During that time the head should be relaxed hanging between his shoulder blades. Catch him from behind and press the diaphragm below the ribs to the artificially induced fit of coughing. Higher temperatures and Fras - liquid and sleeping children tend to have a lower temperature than adults. It is about the protective mechanism of the body against infection. Measured in vent, the temperature of a healthy child is around 37.5 degrees Celsius. Elevated temperature is considered 37.6 to 38 degrees Celsius, while the higher values ​​are considered above 39 degrees.  Measure the temperature of the child. Lukewarm lining around the place leaves him only if his legs and feet really hot.Put a washcloth soaked in warm water on the forehead and give him more fluids to avoid dehydration.Often he Vary linens, towels and pajamas.  Seizures occur due to a sudden increase in temperature. The child begins to twitch, lost consciousness, and sometimes tipped eyes. These parents act intimidating, but is actually harmless. The reaction usually takes only a few minutes, after which the child sinks into a deep sleep.  What to do: If your child has lost consciousness, place it in a stable side position (baby on stomach), remove sharp edges of objects in the environment to be the jerks would not harm the . Call an ambulance if the child has a seizure for the first time, if they last for several minutes or if it's someone else's child. insect stings and allergic reactions  Some children are allergic to insect stings. In most cases, instead of stitches just swell, but seals can break out at other places on the skin and spreading.  If the child is stung by a bee or wasp sting pull out with tweezers or fingernails gently Drain and place of stitches to the poison would not spread further . Pain and swelling will be mitigated by the violation put halved onion. If the bite is on the lips or in the mouth, immediately call an ambulance and give the child to suck ice cubes. Watch for breathing evenly and as soon as you encounter a change, put the child in a stable side position and apply artificial respiration. Burns - cool burns, and bring the body  if the child is burned over the stove or fire, or spill on yourself a hot liquid, first apply the following steps :  - If the clothes on fire, immediately extinguish the fire using a blanket, water, or by a child will tumble to the floor.  - Absolutely not pop blisters, as this may become inflamed.  - Remove his clothes, quickly but carefully.  - let it cool a burn water or a damp cloth (from ten minutes to one hour). Do not use very cold water, because the skin is so even more can be damaged and in danger of hypothermia (temperature below 35 degrees). After cooling, cover the burn clean sheet, and the rest of the body bring the woolen blanket. After that call the ambulance. 

Fear of doctors in children

For children there is an innate fear of doctors. If this fear appears, then contributed to it or the parents, or the unpleasant physical examinations and interventions, which have deterred them. If the parents are afraid of doctors and child overweight it to him, then it will, but scared, get the doctor cried: "Is he not going to give me a shot? I'm good. " If a baby is receiving an injection, it will get burdened with another kind of fear - the fear of pain.

 If a child is well prepared, even unencumbered by fear of punishment or fear of pain, the doctor comes, it may even be nice to have fun all the strange things that a doctor has, and which serves, especially if he let his subjects and take in hand, visit them and become familiar with them.
 Sometimes, however, these same objects and that can scare a child, and in this case the parents and doctors depend on what will happen next. In this situation, they need to understand what a child feels at that moment and to show understanding for this situation and feeling that his lot with patience facilitate review.
 "You're afraid that you will ache, let's guess: if it hurts, and you immediately say I'll stop (the stethoscope on the chest) or "Come on Feel the first look and this rubber hose, and I will then examine a view after you mom", or "I know you are ashamed to take off, I am going to close my eyes, and you tell when I open my eyes ";" You will daddy to hold in your lap, and you keep your honey. " Toys in medical room (and they should be in every room doctors who work with children) will help in the liberation of fear, because they will always find some that will appeal to pediatric care. 's normal to cry when it hurts  Many children, although well prepared , they cry when they get shot, and that's a normal reaction to pain. Child will be easier and will quickly console if his parents simply show that they know that it hurts him, and that it must be because you otplače.  If a child (grown up) boldly submit an injection after the expected pain and he is not too strong, then it will ga be happy if parents praise what is so brave. That child will create a kind of self-confidence and help him to continue easily submit discomfort and pain.  In both cases the child is the most important thing to know that his parents did not agree (they said it will hurt), nor cheat you understood it if he cried. In this way, his faith in the parents will bti shaken. promise not rewards, not to interfere Love Many parents resort to various promises that persuaded the child to take medication. Usually his promise favorite toys, sweets or fun. What really achieves these procedures? In this way, not only can the children do not necessarily develop the feeling that many things in life must accept though unpleasant, but rather developing - the utmost harm to the child - the feeling that for all the inconvenience you stranded lodged, will be richly rewarded . Thus the child easily makes us prone to blackmail, which later spread to many other situations. Then the parents should not be surprised if one day you hear of a child: "I will write an assignment if we buy automobilčić", "I will take the garbage bag if you gave me money for the cinema", "Spremić your room if you buy me a red turtleneck," etc.  There are parents who are inclined to intervene love and feelings to children persuaded me to do something that is not pleasant. "If you love mom, popićeš cure" or "If you do not drink medicine, I love you more." What is achieved by this kind of threat? The child is born the fear of losing my mom's or dad's love for his own fault. Such a fear, the most terrible for the child, creates a feeling of uncertainty and can lead to various disorders, on an emotional level.

What if your child prefers one parent?

How to come up with misunderstanding, loneliness and feelings of rejection by "opposing camps", within the same family?  Everyday eagerly talking with a colleague, who is the father of three children, about male-female relationships. At least once a week, talk with a friend, a mother of two children "on it" and everything she prepares, and whenever I hear the godfather (two girls) - like searching for a needle in a haystack, trying to think of couples who function as the beginning.

 Affiliate relationships are inexhaustible subject and, as our experience was authentic, often I hear from parents and frightening absurd claim - all is well until you reach the children, because children ruin everything good in the relationship.  then became angels ...  Dragan says they are loved, respected and competed in tweaking each other until they are born angels ... With the birth of heirs had stopped to help, began to rise, and that is insulting.  Sasha believes that women give men from the moment you realize as a mother. Convinced that men neglected in families with children, that women are too oriented youngest. I know a family in which the father said he renounces "nevaspitanog her child and her" ...  Not infrequently happens that the cause of the impaired relationship parents see in the third person, who interfered in their relationship - their shared child. Are ready to move on, to use the child as an instrument of revenge conundrum. And the consequences that can occur due to an inappropriate parental behavior are large, sometimes indelible. Unprepared for Parenting  Simendić Oliver, a psychologist, a specialist in family mediation from the department for analytical and research work of the City Center of Social Work, said that the birth of a child in circumstances in which the partners failed to adapt to a new role in his life, can lead to the distance between the spouses, but also that the child could not possibly be the cause of the gap between the partners.  Novo child as a solution  -often happens that the parents choose to give birth of a "new" child , to overcome problems in the family and in-state to "ucvstili troubled emotional ties."However, if the family does not solved our problems, but it bypasses the birth of a new child, eats the problems disappear, but will their solution is currently postponed. Sooner or later, this problem will again eskaliratii and it will take more effort and energy to resolve.  - The distance between the parents occurs if the partners have not solved the developmental task that preceded parenting, or partners if the reason the marriage was unplanned and unwanted pregnancies . In addition, the partners may have illadapted attitude towards parenting. Perhaps one partner is not ready to be a parent, and there is his unwillingness shared with a partner. What else could be the reason for the misunderstanding and quarrels among partners in a situation where they see the child as the cause of the problem?  - It happens that some people simply are not willing or able to be parents, and sometimes the cause of this difficulty that they themselves have undergone during their upbringing, and their inability to commit to the care of someone else. Readiness Test  Parenting is a great test of maturity for a young couple. Young married couple will be easier to adjust to their new role if the partners adapt to each other. Nurses are changing previous roles and family responsibilities multiplied. Life of a couple is changing and it is necessary to talk about it openly. It is especially important to talk about what will be in their lives changed by the arrival of the new, to reassess their expectations and beliefs, and to share their thoughts with each other. If there are differences between the partners in relation to parenting, it is expected that there will be a problem. How to recognize this situation?  - Partners gradually become more distant with each other, the less time they spend in joint activities, they do not recognize each other's needs, not communicate, are increasingly turning to meet their needs that preclude partners, conflicts among them are frequent.  In such situations, the couple spend more time outside the family, at work, with friends. In their mutual relations, the present tensions. appeal for help how they feel their child in such a situation?  - Regardless of age, the child feels the tension that exists between the parents, and usually has a feeling of guilt. It often happens that when a child develops a symptomatic behavior. whether children, in their own way, try to intervene and unite parents? What undertaken in this situation?  - Children whose behavior is always trying to attract the attention of parents and keep them away from their conflict. The behavior of children is a reflection of events in the family.When young children are in child reaches the regression in behavior, or at a school child to behavioral problems and poor academic achievement in relation to ability - these are all the appeals for help, which usually reflect the conflict situation in the family and catch the attention of parents with their partner problems to the problems of children. I think there is a child whose parents are divorced and that no parent wants to reconcile. Manipulating child How often and in what ways parents manipulate child?  - If there is a problem in the functioning of the partnership, parents consciously or unconsciously retract the child in conflict and thus manipulate him. It happens that parents seek for their children to be loyal, to choose between a father and a mother with children to share a secret. In this situation, divided loyalties, the child will develop a sense of insecurity and anxiety.  parents generally underestimate the ability of children to cope with sensitive information. When you decide to make them acquainted with the problems, the majority of mothers and fathers was surprised to learn that their children already know or assume what they have to convey.  In conflict situations, scored "small victories" are only an illusion, since in such situations usually all suck. These are the current victory and, if parents continue with such behavior patterns, inevitably there will be a cumulative problem, and thus harder to solve problems. Teamwork attitude is the solution when we should expect that the child will begin to manipulate their parents?  - Child will manipulate in all situations in which it is to realize a profit - that longer watch television, play games, go outside, to obtain the desired kicks, and more. Situations where the parents have agreed educational styles, or are in conflict, not talk - in favor of the child to do what he wants. arguments or silence - the fray know they are very uncomfortable, especially if the child is their witness. In such situations, the parents of an inappropriate use of vocabulary express their objections to each other, but such communications once they manage to resolve the conflict. Silence and nekomuniciranjem, tensions are accumulated, do not speak the comments, criticism and expectations, and a child may have an idea what the reason is parental conflict. All this leads to a compounding problem.  Compared with their children, parents need to be consistent, to set appropriate limits to what children learn is desirable and what is unacceptable behavior.  Parenting includes not only the attitude toward the child, but also the relationship between the partners. Both parents should be in relation to the child are performing as a team. Doing so will reduce the possibility of manipulating the child. Where this leads to a complex problem and how can it be overcome?  - If the problem is resolved, arises a crisis in family functioning. The crisis can be resolved if the family members are motivated to independently solve problems, or to assess their potrebnastručna help and for her and they talk.  spouses need to have the capacity to change, to first of all recognize and admit they have a problem and that ga want to solve. If it is between family members maintained emotional ties, if they are motivated to overcome the problems that have, any problem can be overcome. 

Headaches in children

"Mommy, my head hurts. Is he can not go to school. "Probably have several times been faced with such a request of your child. To say nothing bad, one aspirin will solve the problem. But it's not all that simple, because the headache can be a symptom of the disease, it should be noted.

Children under seven years  Many parents are surprised when their kids complain of a headache because they believe it is a disease of adults. However, research shows that in the age of seven years 1.4 percent of children suffered from just these ailments.  Today's science is known 165 types of headaches, but children usually suffer from migraine and tension headaches.  nNapadi migraine can last from two hours to two days . It's pulsating, very strong pain and he effectively preventing child to be normal behavior. Tot can complain and interference in mind, unreasoning fear, nausea, and sometimes his numb hands and feet. Tension headaches occur occasionally and lasts half an hour to one week. Pain is bilateral, constant, but does not disturb motor skills of a child. No nausea or vomiting.  has children he tormented headaches when weather changes, before the rain, or if a strong wind blows. This is especially prevalent in the spring and fall.  So you child complained that ga headache. What are you going to take? If we exclude the possibility that your favorite simulates the pain that would not go to school or day care, it is best to do the following: He also measure the pressure and temperature. If the data deviate from the norm, give the child paracetamol tablet-based or use some of the recipes of folk medicine. Helps herbal tea with flowers of lavender, peppermint, rosemary and valerian root (which is added only in the evening). If the problem does not go through an hour or two, should consult with their physician. Children from seven to 16 years  in this age child has numerous responsibilities both at school and beyond. That's why 11 percent of the children there is the headache.  - Keep in mind that the problems may be associated with poor vision: many teenagers do not like to be picked on because of the glasses, and then hide from parents and friends that could not see well.  - Pain can be caused and prolonged muscle strain in irregular positions during sleep.Maybe your student improperly sitting on a bench or desk. In this case, strain the eye muscles, head and neck.  Unfortunately, in most cases, teens do not like to take medicine or the first thing you find in a home pharmacy, not taking into account the dose. So explain to a child that preparation to take for a headache, but it is good to consult with their physician prior.  Experts say that if a child starts to complain of a headache, especially parents need to pay attention to the fact that you have regular meals and enough sleeping. It is essential that the computer does not perform more than one hour a day with breaks every 20 minutes. Young organism is essential physical activity, preferably in fresh air.  Pediatricians draw attention to the fact that a great need for a common cause headaches for students. For some, the whole day filled with many activities: the first follows the school, then a language course, sports or music school. Above all to do homework for the next day. A low pressure cause headaches in young people can be high or low blood pressure. In the first case, the pain is accompanied by nausea, feeling that you are clogged ears and weight in mind. The face becomes red, but pulse. If the pressure is low, the child vomits, before his eyes, often dark, spinning in his head, and may even fall into the unconscious. In this case needs a good provetriti room, watered child strong tea  with sugar and consult a doctor. Common causes headaches  42 percent of driving a car or bus  40 percent too little and too much sleep  40 percent of watching television or playing games on the computer  40 percent of stress or failure in the family or school  39 percent of sudden weather changes  30 percent fear a written assignment or bad reviews  30 percent of disappointments, unfulfilled hopes  28 percent of active sport  15 percent in delay, poor nutrition  5 percent of intolerance to certain foods 

Misconceptions about the health of children

Sometimes alone and pediatricians have a problem to catch up with new developments and research, and their advice can complicate the lives of parents, especially newcomers to dads and moms. first mistake would be to humidifier to help the child breathe easier when you have a cold. Although the fresh, moist air previous respiratory organs in general, there is no evidence that further helps colds babies.

 Watching educational videos, hard old school, can help your child to learn better. Studies have shown that by the time a child spends in front of the screen listening to pediatric training programs does not help to speak up more quickly, but can be harmful, especially if it replaces the interaction with parents.  's not incorrect that inhaled steroids, if used for a longer period of treatment of asthma, may lead to a slowdown in the growth of children. Chronic use of inhaled steroids may temporarily slow the rate of growth of the child, but as soon as you stop using them, the body 'soon' to reach the intended genetic height. Inhaled steroids for children with certain types of asthma are essential to reduce inflammation of the airways and avoidance of inadequate supply of oxygen to cells.  Whoever told you that babies need to kake every day?No need to worry until the baby starts to cry because of the pain in the belly, has blood in the stool or hard stool that throws hard. If the child does not khaki few days, not eating or vomiting, contact your pediatrician immediately.  nasal iscedak Green does not mean that a child has a dangerous bacterial sinus infection that requires treatment with antibiotics. Before many decades, parents who were frustrated by the cold that will not stop, the experts were informed that nasal iscedak color means that the flu virus passed from the bacterial infection.  medicine has proved that 'colored' saliva are not a sure indicator that a child has sinusitis, especially if there are no other indicators, such as fever, headache, toothache. In spite of all this, they have to perform tests to establish the right diagnosis.  parents who are afraid to come out of the house with a newborn, make mistakes. Of course, we should not leave home for extreme weather conditions, but when the child reaches the temperature stability (in the first week of life), there is no reason that not everyone has transcended the fresh air.  biggest risk for children under eight weeks of the infection, so try avoiding crowds and minimize close contact with other persons child. So there čačkanja cheeks and catching gear - be clear that, even with loved ones, advises, "Hello."  Not infrequently we hear parents complain that the nursery is very bad idea, because the baby will be constantly sick. After eight weeks of age, living room (if the child care center holds high standards of care for children) is a good way if you do not think you need to get back to work.  Yeah, your child will zapatiti bunch of viral infections, exposure to viruses, but it helps to build and strengthen the immune system so that your child will probably be a lot healthier when you grow up a bit, compared to the fully protected youngsters who have not poked his nose out of the house.  Did you hear the argument that "swimming causes inflammation of the middle ear and because children should not allow to go to the pool. " Swimming can cause an infection called swimmer's ear, but the most common ear infection that parents actually scare caused by a combination of cold and anatomy eustacian horns, which makes children more favorably these infections.  sure your child is not got swimmer's ear, use earplugs, and a hat that will cover the ears. There is no good way to prevent middle ear infections caused by common cold.